To date or not to date......... ?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-01-2007
To date or not to date......... ?
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Thu, 05-03-2007 - 3:59am

Hi there

I recently met a guy while on a night out with a girlfriend. We chatted away over an hour or so, he was asking me about various things showing interest... then before we went our separate ways took my number and said that he would like us to go for a drink etc...

I recieved his text the following day asking if I would like to go a drink in the week, which I agreed. He said he would call in the next few days.

He didnt. So rather than keep wondering why and what the problem was I text him to ask (without sounding desperate I might add!) Then it all becomes apparent. He explained that he had just come out of a long term relationship and wasnt sure what he should do. He said that he was still very interest in meeting up, but didnt want to scare me away.

So my question is: should I meet this guy? Will he be carrrying too much baggage to take me seriously? Im interested in meeting, but feel perhaps I should go (as always) with an open mind. Suggestions please!!

Thank you!

Hx

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Thu, 05-03-2007 - 6:49am

The fact that he's being flakey really supercedes anything else. I have a feeling that if you got involved with him that he has an automatic excuse as to why he's acting wishy washy down the road. He will always be able to say 'I told you I wasn't ready...'


A relationship can only grow when both people are ready, willing and able to make it happen. You can't build a relationship when one person is still broken.


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Registered: 11-30-2006
Thu, 05-03-2007 - 10:01am
"He explained that he had just come out of a long term relationship and wasnt sure what he should do. He said that he was still very interest in meeting up, but didnt want to scare me away." - okay he flashed his yellow warning lights. You can proceed with caution, but you cannot blame him if things go bad for you. The fact that he never called seems as though he is ambivalent about dating. If it were me, and I wanted a relationship, not just sex, I would tell him to call me when he is good and ready to date.
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Registered: 05-01-2007
Thu, 05-03-2007 - 4:18pm


Thanks for your message... I understand your point and would say I have to agree too. I myself dont know what I want exactly, so I guess going for a drink cant hurt - but should anything develop I will make sure I proceed with CAUTION!!

Thanks again

Hxx

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2006
Thu, 05-03-2007 - 7:50pm
hehehe have fun *wink*
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 05-03-2007 - 8:15pm
Going for a quick, casual drink is ok but obviously be very wary before you take it any further.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-01-2007
Fri, 05-04-2007 - 1:52am


I think you're right - I dont really have any expectations of their being an 'us' thats for sure!

Thanks again

Hx