Date Rape

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Registered: 09-27-2005
Date Rape
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Tue, 09-27-2005 - 5:24am
Help! My 18 yo daughter went out with three male friends from her work who gave her alcohol and cocaine. They are all over 21 and know that she is not. After they got her "messed up" they all had sex with her. She still thinks she should keep working with them and be friends. She confided this to me but she hasn't eaten or slept and cries uncontrollably. My greatest concern is her health (mental and physical). Any ideas or resources for me. I feel desperate.
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Registered: 04-19-2004
In reply to: sexysabine
Tue, 09-27-2005 - 9:00am

I'm very sorry for you. My friend in high school was gang raped essentially when she and a friend all went out with a group of "friends" (so called) they all were drinking, she went into a car with the guy she liked started making out with him and she passed out, then as she kept coming in and out of consciousness a different guy was on top of her.

I would strongly suggest contacting the authorities, has she showered??? if not get her to the hospital to have a rape kit done and get her into counseling.

Hugs this must be terrifying for you.

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Registered: 09-01-2005
In reply to: sexysabine
Tue, 09-27-2005 - 9:00am

www.4woman.gov
National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE or 800-787-3224 (TDD).
Boys & Girls Town National Hotline at 1-800-448-3000.

These may give you some guidance. Also, your family physician or school counselor.

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Registered: 04-14-2003
In reply to: sexysabine
Tue, 09-27-2005 - 11:38am
I'd strongly urge your daughter to quit that job, for her own safety. These guys got away with it once, they may do it again. Get your daughter some professional help.
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Registered: 09-27-2005
In reply to: sexysabine
Tue, 09-27-2005 - 3:02pm

Press charges, I wish I would have over 13 years ago. It's the only way to stop these snakes from doing it again.

Get her out of the work situation where these men can re-victimize her. If she can open up now this is a good thing, that is the only way I got through it. I would seek professional help for her if she's ready to do so. If not just re assure her it's not her fault and try to be supportive until she does open up or wants the help. I am sending positive thoughts your way.

http://www.rainn.org/

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Registered: 09-27-2005
In reply to: sexysabine
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 3:14pm
she has decided to press charges and went in to quit the job but the manager asked her to consider staying on and fired the guys regardless of her decision. It was very healing for her to get the support. I know we have a long road ahead but have been blessed to get much love and support from everyone we've been in contact with. The hospital staff was very supportive and the people at planned parenthood were so great! Thanks to all. To any rape victim out there - we love you and know it can get better for you.