The date is tomorrow, but so far no call

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Registered: 08-13-2002
The date is tomorrow, but so far no call
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Thu, 11-24-2005 - 12:14pm
Hello all,
i recently posted a message about a guy i started to date 2 weeks ago. We went on our first date two weeks ago, we had a great time, but to me everything seems to be going really slow. Anyways, i called him last Sunday and we planned a date for Friday, which is tomorrow. The whole week has gonne by, but so far no contact has happened between us. No email, no IM, no calls about any plans for tomorrow. So today being Thursday, i'm starting to wonder what's going on here....I'm starting to think this guy is not into me, or really what's going on? What's your advise on this? Should i try some sort of contact by tonight or wait for him to do so? What's this guy's deal? I'm getting frustrated...
Thanks to all that reply.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 11-24-2005 - 12:20pm

If you planned a date for Friday night, I think it's perfectly acceptable for him to call you by tomorrow mid-afternoon to make the specific plans.

If you haven't heard from him by, say, 3 or 4 PM tomorrow, then a call to ask if you're still on would be in order.

If you've only been dating for 2 weeks, I don't think between date phone calls are necessary or to be expected.

Sheri

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Registered: 10-21-2004
Fri, 11-25-2005 - 6:36pm

<< Anyways, i called him last Sunday and we planned a date for Friday, which is tomorrow. >>

I wouldn't contact him. Leave it up to him to contact you and confirm with you. It's only a second date ... at this stage, talking between dates isn't necessarily a sign of "not being into you" ... I think it would be perfectly acceptable for him to call and confirm that night before (tonight).

If you don't hear from him by tomorrow afternoon, and you still want to keep the date, my advice would be to let him know that it would be good if he could confirm the day before.

It's all about communication. At this point, you don't know each other's communication styles. It's up to you to let him know what you'd like. And if he likes you, he'll take that into consideration for next time. :)

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Registered: 08-13-2002
Fri, 11-25-2005 - 11:06pm
UPDATE....i followed sheri's advice and called around four today and left him a message. He after called me back and then we planned to get together for 7. We ended up not watching a movie because there was nothing that interested us. We ended up having dinner, and the whole time, he talked about his ex's how much she hurted him...etc. hardly asked me questions just about me, and stuff. Being our second date, and since we we're talking about dating and how people play games, i asked how was his feel about me and him, and he answered that "he's still getting to know me, that he thinks i'm a very attracted woman, etc... and that he doesn't want to make any decisions, becauce he wants to be cautions about any future relatioships"...I'm not getting a good feel about this guy interest on me. I feel he's too complicated, and i can't figure him out. Last, when i dropped him off to his car, (we drove to another location, i offer to drive), he said," thanks it was a nice night, drive safe", and left without a hug, a simple touch, or a kiss, absolutely nothing. I drove away very disapointed....feeling that i won't be seeing him again, that's he's not that into me....Should i just wait and see what happens? I know i won't be calling him, or initiate any contact, unless he does.
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Fri, 11-25-2005 - 11:37pm

Why would you want to date a guy who just went on and on about his ex girlfriends???

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sat, 11-26-2005 - 10:30pm
He should be calling you, especially since you're the one who called him sunday to make the plans.
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Registered: 11-05-2005
Sat, 11-26-2005 - 10:57pm

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