Dates at Home?? HELP!!!

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Registered: 07-06-2003
Dates at Home?? HELP!!!
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Wed, 07-21-2004 - 11:52pm
I need some major help. I really want this guy to come over to my apartment. We aren't being terribly "intimate" yet as I am not interested in having sex until I am in love with someone and it would only be like our 3rd date. He hates TV, so I don't want to watch movies or anything and I also don't want to do anything too romantic quite yet. Does anyone have any suggestions of what to do to keep entertained when just chilling at home??
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Registered: 07-21-2004
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 12:49am
Does he like games? I know it might sound dumb, but a good board game (or something alone those lines) could be fun. It could allow for some good flirtation;)

Maybe you two could make supper together or if it's later in the evening, brownies or something good. Then you can enjoy them while you're just chillin'

-Just a few ideas for ya:) Hope this helps!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 11:29am
cook your dinner together or bake cookies or play board games...is he clear that you aren't going to be intimate with him until you fall in love? I think inviting him to your apt. may be a little confusing?
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Registered: 07-22-2004
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 3:21pm
I'm with the last reply. If you don't want to sleep with him and watching a video or something is out, then why do you want him over there? If you want him there to show him something or to share some interest you have then invite him over for that -- you don't need another reason. It's my experience that contrived entertainment ends up feeling like just that -- contrived. I would say, if you just gotta get him in your house, invite him over for a home cooked meal as a prelude to other plans. I would probably do it on a weekend during the day so it doesn't send out the wrong impression.
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Registered: 07-06-2003
Fri, 07-23-2004 - 5:27am
Well, the main reason I want him to come over is that I'm still in college (I'm 22) and I can't afford a car yet, so I feel guilty asking him out because he has to drive all the way to my apartment to pick me up (which is 30 miles away) and then he has to take us wherever we're going to go (which would most likely be pretty far away since I live in a small town near a small college in Minnesota) and then he would have to drive me all the way home and then he would have to drive himself home. I guess I was just trying to be polite. Also, he knows that we wouldn't be doing anything *ahem* intimate yet, lol, I already told him I wasn't that type.