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dating after seperation
| Tue, 06-06-2006 - 1:25pm |
Hello..I'm new here and this is my first post. I have a question that is burdening my heart. let me explain.... I was married for several years and I am now seperated awaiting divorce. I am a fairly new believer, however I have a heart after God. Let me clarify that I completely understand that God hates divorce. I do feel that my situation is different as I dealt with a husband who drank all the time, I don't know that he was sexually unfaithful but he was definatley emotionally unfaithful to the point of deprivation and I have struggled for many years trying to figure out what it was that I was doing wrong. Anyways..... I finally left and do believe that God calls for us to be at peace and has shown me great mercy. So, here is my question, there is this amazing man in my life. In no way was he a deciding factor in my decision nor did he exist in my life prior to my seperation. So as Christians and as witnesses to other believers, we don't want to tell others about our feelings for one another in fear of it being to soon. We are also burdened by the fact that we feel as if we are doing something "secretive" even though it is platonic. We both have great love for one another but our main focus is on Christ Jesus. What is an approperiate amount of time for me to be seperated before I can publicly have another relationship? I truly believe that this man is who I could spend the rest of my life with and rejoice knowing that we will eternally be together as well. I want to scream my joy at the top of my lungs and let everyone know the joy that I feel, but is it approperiate. Any input will be greatly appreciated by both of us. Thanks!!
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| Tue, 06-06-2006 - 2:40pm |
Wait until the divorce has been finalized. Until that point, you are still considered legally married, and there are people who would consider you to be cheating on the vow you took. It's also important to give yourself that time to focus on healing from the marriage, and to focus on the divorce proceedings, rather than being caught up in a new relationship. Good luck.
| Wed, 06-07-2006 - 8:45am |
Thank you so much for your input. I believe that spirtually this is a great time for me to grwo with God. Thank you!
