Dating and work

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Registered: 03-12-2004
Dating and work
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Wed, 08-18-2004 - 12:44pm
Help...

I don't know what to do. I've been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months now. Only thing is we both work in the same office. We don't often work together but from time to time we do. It is fine when we work together but I am very bored in my job. I find myself calling him lots at work and he has a very strong work ethic and is very busy in his job and so I think I am beginning to irritate him. I am trying to find a new job but it is difficult because I'm in a very specialized field and don't want to move too far away from my boyfriend. I love him very much. I feel like our relationship is wonderful when I'm not irritating him with my boredom at work. I am starting to get quite depressed about my job and now I feel like I am bringing him down. I'm also starting to become paranoid, like when he's busy at work my brain seems to think it's cause he doesn't want to talk to me. I've never been one to call boyfriends when they're at work but I guess since I know he's just downstairs I always feel compelled to call him. What do I do???
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 1:25pm
Simple, ask your boss for more to do so you're not bored.

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Registered: 03-12-2004
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 1:29pm
It's not really a question of having no work to do. It's more that the work I have is boring. Plus my boss and coworker don't do work that's more interesting than mine so it's difficult to ask for the fun work when they don't get to do any either.
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 1:33pm
Then maybe you should be looking for another LINE of work that would suit you better.

If you're that bored and things are no fun, then you can't really be productive and feel like you've had a good day. I suggest either going back to school or looking for another job. If you like to be around people, then sitting alone in an office isn't the ideal situation for you, is it? You may want to be a marketing person, work in a restaurant, be sales rep, work some kind of retail or even become a bartender.

But definetly don't be calling the bf at work, whether you work in the same building or not.

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Registered: 08-04-2004
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 2:22pm
you most definately need to find something to keep yourself happy. If you are not happy with yourself then there is no way that you can keep a happy relationship. What kind of work do you do? What kind of work do you want to do? Have you discussed your boredom with your honey?