Dating Crisis...Help!

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Dating Crisis...Help!
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Sat, 05-22-2004 - 2:54am
Last June my boyfriend and I broke up...mainly because I was a HUGE control freak( I know I was now but at the time I thought it was him)I was very jelous and possesive...we are the best of friends now....would never go back to dating him again, but I am starting to see a new guy and things are good... he is a really nice guy, and being as I have only has ONE serious relationship which ended cuz of my stupidity, I am really scared that I will mess this one up too....I don't know what to do....I have changed alot in the last year, I am not the same person I was back then, I have alot more confindence....I just don't wanna screw this up....this guy is great and I really like him....any advice???

thanks jack2000

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 5:56am
Congratulations on the personal strides you have made in the past year. The bottom line is that you cannot hinge the success of this new relationship on you and your accomplishments. You could have fashioned yourself into the most amazing person on the planet and it could STILL not work out...you know? Youve changed, try to stay out of your old habits of control, and be true to yourself. The rest will fall into place if it is meant to be. Its all you can do....
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 11:09am
jack 2000...

You WON'T screw up the relationship with this new guy if you remember one thing:

He's a man who will love and respect you...until you start treating him like a dog! Our "collars" can only be jerked around by a 'verbal leash' so much. Once we've had enough of this treatment, we're gonna break free and run away!

Keep in mind when you treat us with respect and restraint...you'll probably get it back along with a few pleasant surprises! Most men prefer to be with a woman who is affectionate....as opposed to arbitratary or acerbic.

Congratulations on relinquishing your "control freak" status!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 4:31pm

Hello jack!