dating dilemma

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Registered: 10-08-2004
dating dilemma
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Fri, 10-08-2004 - 3:03pm
I'm new to my area and started working out a gym with a trainer a couple times a month. The trainer is about the same age as me, mid 20's, and we have hit it off. He asked me out on a date at the beginning of the week and said he would call and we would discuss detail. We talked the night he asked because I told him we didn't have to do this. I didn't want him to feel wierd, but he said he wouldn't have asked me if he didn't want to go. Well, the week is ending and I haven't heard from him. I saw him at the gym Wednesday and was nervous enough that I couldn't even look at him, but he didn't come up and talk to me either. It's my evening at the gym again, and I know he'll be there. I'm not sure if I should talk to him, or act like its nothing. He's the one that initiated the date that we are suppose to go on tomorrow.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 10-08-2004 - 4:56pm
joyful harmony...

If the man initiated this date...let him to the "follow-through!" Hopefully, he will?

Otherwise...you can completely ignore him MONDAY when you come in to work out! Don't push the envelope....YET!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 10-08-2004
Fri, 10-08-2004 - 8:09pm
I imagine you've already either been to the gym or not by now, so this may be moot. You never said whether you actually wanted to go on the date or what prompted the "we don't have to do this" remark. But in any event, it probably would make things a whole lot more comfortable for everyone if you did at some point approach him and apologize for the remark. That way, you can continue to go to the gym and he can decide whether he wants to ask you out again.

Though I don't know everything about men, I do know that they hate to be second-guessed about their motives.

Good luck!