Dating dilemma for cocktail party

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Registered: 03-07-2006
Dating dilemma for cocktail party
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Mon, 11-20-2006 - 4:02am

I'm casually seeing four different men right now and am not sure how to handle an upcoming cocktail party that I am hosting.

Let me point out that they all know that I am dating other men as well, there is nothing serious with any of these men. We get together once, maybe twice a week.

So ... I am hosting a cocktail party in a couple of weeks at my house and I am not sure how to handle this situation. I invited one of the men, because quite frankly, I enjoy his company the most. However, he has responded with a maybe, because he has friends in town for that weekend.

I am not sure if I should invite any of the other men I am seeing, just in case the first one shows up. Or is it okay if there is more than one of them there? Could be awkward, I guess, but they all know that it's just casual.

What's the right thing to do? Take my chances with the first guy and go solo if he doesn't show? Thank you for the dating etiquette advice!

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Mon, 11-20-2006 - 6:28pm
I wouldn't invite more than one man, as it could be akward for you and for them AND it could end up in lossing all of them if they realize that they're all dating you. They may feel like the second best option.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-20-2006 - 10:44pm

I would not invite more than one guy. If the 1st guy doesn't give you the courtesy of a firm yes or no answer, then I guess you'll have to risk not having a date for your party because it would be very awkward to have more than one guy show up.

Sheri

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 11-26-2006 - 9:16pm
Well, this man should give you a definite, not a maybe, say he can bring his friends but since you're planning food and such (are you?) you want to know exactly how many people to expect? A maybe is a bit rude when it's someone you're dating
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