Dating a divorced dad, any advice?

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Registered: 02-08-2006
Dating a divorced dad, any advice?
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 12:41pm
I started dating this guy 3 weeks ago (from an online dating service). He seems to like me (in and out of bed). And his daughter likes me as well. His daughter is like 10 years younger than me an he is nearly 20 years older than me. We talk nearly every day on the phone and see each other about twice a week. Not including at my work. Any advice to keep up the romance in the bed room as well as out of it?
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 3:46pm

chubby_checkress...

First....PG chuckled after he read your ivillage user name! It's rather creative.

After 3 weeks...I think you're better trying to keep things on an even keel. If the man likes you "out of the bedroom" as much as "in bed"----that's all that matters! But it appears that his daughter could become your very best friend?

So perhaps you can think of a few ideas that would please Father AND Daughter? .

It's much too early to rush the process. So give yourselves plenty of time to get to know and like each other.

Pianoguy

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 7:31pm

I like his daughter a whole lot. She is a sweet girl, that looks forward to me visiting.

(OFF TOPIC) What I definitely need to do is get out of my house. Cause my sister thinks that because she is a minor. That she has a right to hit me due to being upset at me. For the things I do. And that I can't touch her (w/o her threatening to sue for assulting a minor).

In the above situation I think his daughter could be my greatest friend in that fact. For some ideas outside of the bedroom. Amusement parks and carnivals seem like things everyone loves. And would take everyone's mind off their troubles.

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 10:56pm

Well, it sounds like you're on the right track in dating the man. It is really great that his daughter likes you a lot. That is half of the battle.

As far as your sister hitting you. You could press charges on her! Just because someone is a minor, it doesn't absolve them from the law. The law applies to everyone. All you need is a witness. If you have no witness, and she leaves a mark, you can press charges. If there is no mark on her, she can't sue you. Call the cops very quietly (so she can't leave a self inficted wound on herself before the cops show up). They will take statements from you both. If she says that you punched her in the eye and they see no bruise, her word will be null and void.

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Sat, 03-11-2006 - 12:48pm

With her it is more of an emotional thing anyhow. And it is like this, I never want any of the guys I date to meet my family. Because they always end up getting over exuberantly involved. IE (wanting to meet them after I only been dating less than a week, when I was). And when there was someone around to witness everything. They say they are "staying out of it". And "if she wanted to she'd be able to hurt you and you couldn't do a thing to her". Even though I have a few scratches, it is a mostly emotional / physcological thingy with her. And I can't do a thing while I am still living at home.

I am determined to break the cycle. To get out, but when one has no money to begin with. It is very hard to indeed.