Dating a friends ex-boyfriend

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Dating a friends ex-boyfriend
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Mon, 08-16-2004 - 3:00pm
I have been friends with my boyfriend for 11 years. I set him up with all his past girlfriends, but about 9 months ago, we hooked up and have been together ever since. I am friends with his ex and one of the hardest things for me to get thru is that she had sex with him and took his virginity. In fact, she took all her boyfriends virginities, but thats not the point. How do I get over this? Why do I feel such anger? I was the one who set them up in the first place, but now that I am with him, I feel differently.

Thanks in advance,

Tina

 

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Mon, 08-16-2004 - 6:19pm
I don't think that you're so angry because of his ex exactly. I think you're angry because you realize now, being with him, that you should have been the one setting YOURSELF up with the guy, not HER. That's normal, and it's something you will need to work through. You may also be feeling afraid that he may want to be with her again, and since she is around because you two are friends, that's a normal fear. Just realize that he's with YOU now.

Relax and enjoy your guy. Try not to think about her. If it's too much to see her, then there's nothing wrong with not seeing her for a little while, especially with him.

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Mon, 08-16-2004 - 6:25pm
You have him now, don't you? Stop thinking about his ex and enjoy the relationship. Your anger could affect it and you could losse your BF over a minor thing.