The Dating Game

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Registered: 12-08-2006
The Dating Game
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Fri, 06-08-2007 - 4:38am

Sex with a guy- just curious for other people's opinions?
a capricorn male. december 30th. Curious to know people's opinions thanks! :)

this is our 3rd date. and im far removed from a virgin lol. umm, if it helps im an aquarius (feb 2nd) lol.

we talked about things and he said hes into dating exclusively but he needs his freedom and doesnt like being told what to do. so i asked him what he thought would be a sweet deal. he said making out and stuff would be fine. anything above the belt. he said he wouldnt be happy about it if i did it but he wanted to be fair. nothing below the belt though. so no oral sex or sexual intercourse. i said i can agree to that and we both agreed to tell each other whatever details the other party wanted to know if they asked. we havent done anything sexual. just made out with clothes on. we both have made strong sexual hints at each other though lol. if finally got to the point where i said i wanted to but i wanted to get to know him better and he actually agreed lol

im thinking about 2 1/2 months into we can do it. im 20 and hes 21 if that helps

MY QUESTION: when should i give into our desires if i want to be exclusive (bf/gf) with him

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Fri, 06-08-2007 - 3:29pm

Well, no one likes being told what to do, however, when you are part of a couple, some things just change. And that is why relationships tend to be difficult - one or both parties dont feel that ANYTHING in their lives should change, let alone decisions that affect both parties. And that is the kicker...every decision or choice you make impacts that relationship in some way. It may not materialize immediately, but it will one day. It seems as though you are willing and able to compromise and that is key to a successful relationship.

Sex with a guy is solely your perogative. Does the "sweet deal" mean dating others? I couldn't get that clearly from your post.

If you are going to have sex with him and others it really isn't going to matter when you do finally have sex with him since the event is enmeshed in with the other relationships you may be having. It is usually best not to put a time table on sex or romance and kind of just feel your way through it. Reason being is that timing is everything. Sometimes the timing is a bit inconvenient or impractical but you go with your gut.

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Registered: 12-08-2006
Fri, 06-08-2007 - 5:31pm
well he said that dating others was ok. kissing others and any type of stimulation above the belt. but anything below including oral sex and sexual intercourse was NOT ok. hes in vegas tonight and i think tommorow as well so i think he wanted a bit of freedom but not a lot for me lol.
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Fri, 06-08-2007 - 10:16pm
Freedom for him and not you? That blows. You really like this guy?