dating harder for attractive women?!
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dating harder for attractive women?!
| Fri, 07-02-2004 - 6:56pm |
has anyone else noticed this?
because ive had insecurities within me the last few years, so i hadn't noticed before, i thought their lack of pursuing at times was me...(but recently resolved them so ive noticed a different side)... i have noticed that guys are intimidated by me at times. or they think i am not interested when all i do is just let them lead. maybe its too much aloofness or what not?
it has been with 90% of the guys ive dated in the last year or so.
its so hard though because i want to be able to let the guy lead and balance it with me showing i do not play games, and that i like him. but then i fear it'll scare them away so I hold back alot.
Does anyone else face this challenge????
Edited 7/2/2004 6:58 pm ET ET by surfergirl77

One thing is for sure, its definitely about attitude, my friend, whose average sits at bars like her poo don't stink and she expects men to fawn all over her. I too am average (darn cute if I do say so myself *wink*) but I talk to whomever, even if he's not my type, I will still talk to someone at the bar if he asks for my number I just decline, she won't even glance at someone she doesn't find attractive, and I'm friendly to everyone, this is my theory...that dork that comes up and says hi to me, if I am rude and shoot him down or act as though I am better than he is, the cute shy guy at the end of the bar, definitely won't come up and talk to me if I just degraded someone in public.
Nope, I laugh, smile and talk to anyone...I'm not seeing anyone but when I go out, I get approached a lot.
i think it has alot ot do with vibes. but also, i know im friendly and open in the public social scene. i think its getting past the first few dates, where im seeing im having to make more of an effort than any of my friends had to do. maybe they just don't like me? eh? hehe. Im sure that was the case with some of the guys, but I know with alot of them, Ive had to go further in the leading than my gal buddies in dating.
we'll see, it'll happen regardless of what i do when i meet the right person. but int he meantime, dating for myself has been fustrating for the last 2.5 years... ive dated pretty much everyt ype of guy... coming to the end of the fishie pool! :)
thanks.
of the men I know. They tell me all the time. I am also very friendly, although I
am quiet when I first meet someone. At this point I do not have a problem getting
attention from men. Unfortunately the attention I am getting is from guys who find
me attractive but do not want to actually date me. I had one tell me that to my face
last week. He did not have a reason he just said "I find you attractive and I would like
to have sex with you, but I don't want a relationship with you."
It was hurtful. The worst part is that I don't know why.
So yes, being attractive has is pluses (people notice) but it sure as heck doesn't
make finding "Mr Right" any easier.
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