Dating a much older man

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2003
Dating a much older man
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Thu, 05-20-2004 - 2:25pm
I have been dating a guy for about 2 years. It's coming to the point where it's time to decide if this relationships is ready for commitment. The problem is that he is 48 and I am 26. I want to settle down one day and have a family, and wonder if he is too old or if I will resent him in the future when I am still relatively young and he is old. I just wonder if I am selling myself short b/c I am ready to be in a committed relationship.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-16-2003
Thu, 05-20-2004 - 2:58pm
I think that the very fact that you are questioning the age difference shows that it bothers you. I can sense that you are settling for this guy because the time seems right for you to settle down. Don't do it! I and so many other people I know got to be your age and decided that it was time for marriage and family. Basically, whom ever we happened to be involved with at the time became the likely candidate. This is not the way to pick a lifetime partner. I'm sure that you enjoy this man's company, but that alone won't make a happy, healthy marriage. Do I think you will resent the age differnce later? Probably. I am 42 and that would be like me being involved with someone who is 64. That's my mother's age. Take your time and find someone you are truly in love with, that you admire, have similar interests and experiences with.

Good luck,

Lois