Dating Post Divorce and possible remarriag

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Dating Post Divorce and possible remarriag
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Sun, 02-10-2013 - 10:26pm

  I have been divorced for about a year and a half.  And am interested in dating.  I do have children, 3 to be exact and am in my early 40's.

I have been wondering what are the chances of remarriage for someone like me, but most of all how do I go about getting out there and meeting people.  I must say I am not a drinker or partyer but there has to be a way to meet other singles that are interested in dating and maybe if all works out well think about a long term commitment. 

 

It is a little scary to think about and at times I worry that I will end up alone.  I am fairly good looking, at least that is what I have been told.  It's not that I don't get anyone asking me out...well none recently but I guess I am just feeling out of sorts and wondering what to do.

 

Any advice?  Anyone?

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Mon, 02-25-2013 - 11:29pm

trublu39 wrote:
<p>  I have been divorced for about a year and a half.  And am interested in dating.  I do have children, 3 to be exact and am in my early 40's.</p><p>I have been wondering what are the chances of remarriage for someone like me, but most of all how do I go about getting out there and meeting people. ...</p><p> </p><p>Any advice?  Anyone?</p>

Trublu39-

Hi. As Floridagirl52 said, dating does get harder on average as you get older. However, people at your age still connect. My wife and I got married when she was 43 and I was 44.

The main relevant variables are your personality and looks. If you're shy and passive and not so pleasant to look at, you'll have a hard time. However, if you have a dynamic personlity and are decent looking, the odds are good you'll find someone. I am not in a position to evaluate you without seeing you in person.

Regarding where to meet people, Musiclover12 gave decent advice. Get involved in activities you like/feel are useful. If you're a member of a religious group that allows divorce (e.g. you're not Catholic), religious events can be a good place to meet people.

Good luck.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Mon, 02-11-2013 - 11:24am

I think it does get harder to meet someone to marry the older you get, but like Musiclover says, no one can really predict how hard it might be for you. I wouldn't worry a lot about getting married right now: I would recommend dating with no agenda.

I agree with Music's suggestions for meeting men. The thing to remember is that you can meet men everywhere, not in specific places, or at "singles" events (which I hate). 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 02-11-2013 - 10:59am

There are various ways to meet people--the best way, I think, is to get involved in doing something that you like to do where you will meet like-minded people and meet them naturally. For me, now, it's ballroom dancing.  I haven't met anyone to date but at least I am out there having fun & men are there too.  You could try OLD, you could join meetup groups, go to singles dances--there are plenty of places to meet men, but no guarantee of course that you will meet the right one.  I don't think anyone can tell you what the chances are for you to get remarried, knowing nothing about you or what you want.  I got divorced when I was about 40 with 2 young kids and I did get remarried a few years later.  I met the guy in Parents without Partners--unfortunately no. 2 was worse than no. 1, but that's a different story.