dating question

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Registered: 07-27-2005
dating question
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Wed, 12-06-2006 - 6:53am
I feel like I am never very good at this issue.. I never know what to do..
I met a guy a while back, and he called me to go out to the bar, and I said no because I already have other plans..i said next time? then i called him for coffee and we went. afterwards he said well.. over break (we both in college), if you want to do something, give me a call..and i said yeah..sure and you can give me a call too!
so i feel now that he should call and ask me out, but how about if he doesn't? I think he's nice, I'd like to know more about him. I just want to hang out with him..you know as a friend first. Suggestions? comments? I don't want to seem too eager..
thanks
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: spiffer81
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 11:53am

spiffer81...

What's the problem?

Pianoguy feels that you "left the invitation open for this man to call YOU!"

That's called 'giving a man permission to make contact and ask you out!'

If he's foolish enough to pass up the opportunity...it's HIS LOSS....NOT YOURS!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 04-28-2003
In reply to: spiffer81
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 5:58pm


I always like to text a guy and just say “hey a few of my friends and I are going to (fill in) for the night. I would love it if you could come. Let me know."

I like this option because it gets around having to have the awkward phone conversation. Plus it doesn't have it coming of as a date but more as a group of friends getting together. But that just what I like.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2006
In reply to: spiffer81
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 6:39pm
I like your idea of the "me and my friends..." invitation. But, I wholeheartedly agree with PianoGuy that a perfect opportunity was set out for this guy and the ideal thing would be for him to make the first move. Personally, as the female, I've always found the most success in relationships where the guy made the official first move to ask me out rather than me taking the initiative to push it forward (although I've definitely left the door open with comments, invites such as lostlovely suggests, etc.)
Good luck!
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-27-2005
In reply to: spiffer81
Sat, 12-09-2006 - 4:15am
well.. that's part of my impatience.. I feel that everyone else got asked out left and right. I guess maybe I'm just jealous. And no he hasn't called.*not going to wait by the phone*
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-27-2005
In reply to: spiffer81
Wed, 12-13-2006 - 8:43pm
He called.. :) We're going to go out Friday!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: spiffer81
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 6:52am

spiffer81...

Keep us posted on how things went....okay???

Pianoguy

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Registered: 07-27-2005
In reply to: spiffer81
Sat, 12-16-2006 - 8:59am
well, the date went well I thought. After the movie, we went out to dinner, and he came by my place for dessert and chat and it was fun. (I'm smitten). I might call him and hang out with him today.. (maybe?) and not overanalyze everything..
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Registered: 11-30-2006
In reply to: spiffer81
Sat, 12-16-2006 - 1:47pm
Go with your gut. It is better that the guy see the real you earlier than later. If he then feels that it is not working out, you'll know sooner than later and you wouldn't have exhausted yourself trying to play "the game" just right. Have fun!