Dating Question

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Dating Question
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Thu, 07-29-2004 - 6:23pm
I've been dating this guy for 1 1/2 months now. We have gone out every weekend except one (my dad was visiting me).

I am not sure at what point I should make myself unavailable. I don't want to do this too soon because I don't want him to think I'm not interested. I hate to play this game, but I've learned the hard way that guys prefer you be somewhat aloof.

Same for the calling thing, it makes me crazy, but I feel that if I call too much they don't like that either. Even if they say call me anytime.

Thoughts?

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Registered: 07-20-2004
In reply to: cbmroz
Thu, 07-29-2004 - 6:50pm
It sucks but dating is a game. If you want to be unavailable, don't return a message or have a girls night out and forget to mention it. Any guy gets a little jealous when you're all over him and then stop for a little bit to do your own thing. Just keep him guessing. If there is something you always do such as call everyday or hang out on the weekend, take some time off.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cbmroz
Thu, 07-29-2004 - 7:40pm
I don't understand..."make yourself unavailable"??? Why would you do that?

Now, when I'm out living my life, doing my normal evening and weekend activities like seeing friends, going to concerts, getting massages, rehearsing with my singing group, going on trips...I often *am* unavailable...but that's just the way it is...I'm not artificially creating it.

So, why not just live your life and if you have time to see him do, but don't NOT plan something you would otherwise do just because he might call or want to see you.

Sheri

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Registered: 07-20-2004
In reply to: cbmroz
Thu, 07-29-2004 - 7:47pm
If you've already got all that going on it dosen't sound like there is a problem. I guess the game starts when things get too comfortable a predictable. It's only been a month and a half. You're still in the "good stage" with this guy. Maybe you should be asking this question in about 5 months.