Dating question

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-01-2003
Dating question
6
Sun, 06-06-2004 - 8:23pm
I'm really confused. For the people who doesn't know me on this Board I just practically came from Puerto Rico to the Boston area.

I'm confused and don't know what to do. I met this guy on a dating web site and we have been e-mailing for like twelve days. At first he wanted to see me right away and I let him know that I wanted to take things slow. First comunicate thru e-mail then thru the phone and then we can meet in person. Since the day he first sent me an e-mail, he gave me his phone number cause he wanted to talk by the phone right away. But as I said I want to take things slow (because of how we met). I saw a picture of him and really like him and he said that he likes me too. But yesterday he sent me an e-mail saying that he wasn't comfortable with the e-mail thing and that he didn't want to put pressure on me but he wanted to see me or at least talk by the phone. I really don't know what to do since I want to have precaution. Please, I need some advise here!

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2003
In reply to: nuden70
Sun, 06-06-2004 - 8:42pm
Hello nuden!

 
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-01-2003
In reply to: nuden70
Sun, 06-06-2004 - 9:10pm


Thanks a lot, cl-tgowens. You have been very helpful!!
Avatar for northwestwanderer
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: nuden70
Sun, 06-06-2004 - 9:13pm
Oh, I'm totally with him! I have a lot of experience meeting people to date through the online dating sites and the best thing to do is meet in person ASAP. You can't tell much about a person from email/phone conversations so once you've exchanged a couple of emails and talked on the phone briefly (and he *seems* normal), meet for coffee!!! To address your safety concerns, meet in a public place like a Starbucks, don't tell him where you live or give out your last name, don't get into a car with him or let him get into yours.

Unless you're just looking for a penpal, it's best to take it to real life sooner rather than later.

And PLEASE let go of any expectations!!! You're just meeting for a cup of coffee. Who knows if you'll hit it off in person or not. Chemistry online or liking someone's picture does NOT mean you will like them in person.

Sheri

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2003
In reply to: nuden70
Sun, 06-06-2004 - 9:37pm
You are entirely welcome... glad to help...

 
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2003
In reply to: nuden70
Sun, 06-06-2004 - 9:38pm
Sheri,

 
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-26-2003
In reply to: nuden70
Sun, 06-06-2004 - 10:19pm
I personally think you should be cautious about this. Eventually you should meet in person but you shouldn't do anything sooner than you want to. Even though the guy may not like it, you should take things at your own pace and don't do anything you're not comfortable with yet. Hopefully if they really care for you they will respect that. I hope that this turns out well for you. And I also hope that he's as great of a guy in person as he is online. Just be cautious and take your time.