Dating shorter men

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Registered: 06-01-2003
Dating shorter men
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Sun, 09-19-2004 - 9:46am
I was wondering how other women feel about dating someone shorter than them. Would they rule out dating a guy an inch shorter than them even if he seems like a great guy? In the past, I have been pickier about appearance and have ended up with a lot of frogs. I'm thinking of trying a new approach and dating guys who I would normally not be immediately physically attracted to, and this includes a guy I know who is an inch shorter than me. And the height issue is not because I care how others will view me but how I feel around shorter men. I tend to feel awkward like I am the dominant one, much like I would with a man who is significantly younger than me. But I'm thinking an inch is not much of a difference and maybe I'm passing up a great guy because I am being too picky. A friend of mine told me this and it has stuck with me. Has anyone on here ever lowered their standards with the opposite sex and have been glad that they did? By the way, my last serious boyfriend was exactly my height and though I was perfectly fine with that, I decided I was going to date men taller than me from now on because I had sworn off heels the whole two years I was with him, and I like wearing them on occasion. Someone give me their insight please!
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Registered: 12-30-2003
Sun, 09-19-2004 - 11:50am
Hey ising, I went out with a guy a couple of times that was shorter than me. He was very accomodating. He would open car doors for me and pull out chairs for me at restaurants. He was also a sensitive intent listener. I think because he was short he knew he had to work harder than tall guys to get and keep a girl's attention. He was way more polite and sensitive than a lot of guys I've met. I think his height forced him to be this way.

With all his kindness he was on the other hand very confident and cocky. I think his cockiness came from his days as a youth in Brooklyn, NY when he was constantly picked on by other guys. He lifts weights now and looks as strong as a tree trunk but he's very short. I'm 5'4" and he was a couple of inches shorter than me.

The relationship didn't evolve because it was during a period that I just didn't want a committed relationship, but I found him to be very nice. He was a manager at a paper distribution company and owned his home. Actually he was a good catch.

Of course if a guy is short and has no other attractive qualities then it may not be worth it, just like with a taller guy. It really does come down to how a person is inside. Is he nice? Does he respect you? Is he a loyal friend? Do you guys laugh and have fun together? Is he honest and law abiding? Is he a responsible human being that provides for himself? Does he have goals for improving his life if he's not already financially sucessful? Do you guys have a lot in common and share common belief systems? If yes to all of the above, his height doesn't matter.