Dating a single mom long distance.
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Dating a single mom long distance.
| Sun, 08-15-2004 - 6:09pm |
Hello, I've been trying to figure some things out in a relationship that I'm in, so I figured I'd turn to the experts in the field. About a month and a half ago I began dating a lady that I met at work, she's 26 and I'm 22. I had known her for several months and she always smiled and we flirted a little, but that was it, for a while. She also has a 6 year old daughter, that I had met before we began dating, as she came to work a couple of times with her mom. Well, I went over there to help her with a new computer, so the 3 of us had pizza together, and I checked out her computer, and that was it (we watched a movie, she fell asleep, so I left so she could sleep). I'm a very shy guy, and I was pretty sure that she liked me, so it took me a while to make any real advances. SO, the 3 of us went out to dinner, I went over there another night and we watched a movie, and that was it (on her laptop in her bed since she didn't have a TV). It took me forever to get inside her 'wall'; she's a very independent woman, comes from a wealthy family, parents had a rough divorce, so she doesn't really trust relationships. Well, I finally decided to kiss her, and she was, very receptive. I went over there I think every night for a couple of weeks. We started having sex I guess the 4th night, and pretty regularly after that. Everything has been great, she got onto me once about needing her own space, which we resolved very easily. Now she's about 6 hours away about to start law school, busy, and got on to me for sharing my feelings too much. After this long story, we've been through a bit, shared a lot of feelings I don't think either of us have for a long time, and I'm not ready to just give up, and I don't plan to; I'm willing to work as hard as possible to make this work. Did I mention her daughter asked if I could be her daddy(who I don't think she sees, atleast not often at all)? Luckily her mom told her now wasnt the time for that discussion, so I didn't have to deal with the answer. How should I hadnle these long distance communications; let her contact me when she feels like it at the risk of her thinking I don't want to go out of the way to contact her? How direct should I be with my feelings? Sorry for the length, but there is a lot involved here. Thanx to anyone who decides to reply after reading all of this.

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