Dazed and confused

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Registered: 02-24-2004
Dazed and confused
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Fri, 03-17-2006 - 11:38am
Just need a little advice. Here's my situation. I've been "dating" this guy for the past 9 months or so. When I fist met him we where talking for about 2-3 wks till he was deployed. He just came back the last week in Feb. We kept in touch emailing each other while he was gone tried to make plans for when he got back, but that was hard to keep since they kept changing his return date. Anyway, the last time I talked or seen him was the 2nd of mar. He seemed excited to hang out with me that weekend but I haven't heard from him since. He doesn't have a phone so I couldn't call, I did email him and he's pretty good at writing back but, I haven't had a response yet. I'm just confused I don't wanna jump to conclusion and think that he's really not that into me, he is in the military and some things are unpredictable. I don't ponder on this everyday like he's the only man in my life but I really like him.
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Fri, 03-17-2006 - 11:51am

Does he have regular access to the Internet now that he's back?

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Registered: 02-24-2004
Fri, 03-17-2006 - 12:37pm
I'm not too sure about his internet access. I would think that he did have it available. But I know sometimes he didn't when he was deployed. I put dating in quotes cause we only went on one date prior to him leaving, wasn't sure if it would be considered dating. We conversed alot on the phone and saw each other too. I let him know the first time that I met him that I was looking for a meaningful relationship and that I was getting too old for playing games he said that he was too. But the weird thing is he thinks I'm a player. Three times he's asked me that. I'm wondering if he's insecure about that I wanted to ask him that face to face to see his reaction, but haven't really had the chance to.
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Fri, 03-17-2006 - 12:43pm

Hmmm....I would be a little put-off by his asking me repeatedly if I'm a "player."

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Registered: 01-12-2005
Fri, 03-17-2006 - 2:11pm

You've gotten some good things to think about here, but try asking the same questions to the gals on Dating a Military Man board, they can give you some insight as to what a military guy's life is like, both at work and away from it, during deplyments and afterwards.

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Registered: 02-24-2004
Fri, 03-17-2006 - 3:47pm
Thank you both for the advice. I didn't even think to look for a message board like that. That helps alot.