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| Wed, 05-02-2007 - 10:42pm |
I just read in a post that "no sex before marriage" is a major dealbreaker for most guys when dating. Is this really true? Do guys want an experienced woman?

You're going to get a lot of female responses on this one since the majority on the board are women. But I do know a few guys who would wait for a girl if it came down to it. They're in the minority though.
And from a woman's perspective, I personally would not wait. I've been in and seen too many relationships fail because of sexual incompatibility.
Now mind you, if you're asking this because you're a virgin hold onto your virginity. In a younger age range, that makes things a whole lot different with this question. I'm talking as a person who is in her 30s so things change a bit...
I agree with cl-bklynchik, if you are a virgin then you may want to visit another board for this advice. And don't have sex just because you don't want to lose a guy, if you feel that strongly about it.
If you are concerned that a guy would break up with you because of no sex before marriage,and you happen to be a religious person, then there are alot of guys and girls who are abstaining sex for marriage.
Sexual incompatibility can creat distance in a relationship, cause affairs and eventually ruin the marriage. I would not abstain before marriage for that reason.
For me personally, sex is a huge part of a relationship. Granted, it is not the only part, but I could not be with somebody who I was not sexually compatible with, and you only know if you are when you start having it. I know many guys who feel the same way.
But, with that being said, don't give up your morals or beliefs for just a guy. I lost my virginity much later in my life (early to mid 20s) b/c I wanted to wait until the rigth guy came along and it took that long for me to find him. He waited until I was ready -- of course we broke up shortly thereafter, but still....
If you want counsel or advice on waiting 'till marriage, there are a few really good boards on here. Check those out.