Dealing with Mr. Grumpy

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Registered: 06-25-2003
Dealing with Mr. Grumpy
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Wed, 05-30-2007 - 5:07pm

I just spent a weekend camping in the rain with Mr. Grumpy. It was a bit difficult. There was nothing I could do. So, I would just be there or go away when I got the feeling he wanted to be alone. Really, I just couldn't read him sometimes.

I have been told Mr. Grumpy shows up about once a month. How exactly do I deal with him in the future? What do you do?

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Registered: 05-24-2003
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 3:34pm
Dump him
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 4:43pm

IMO, shutting you out completely for one weekend a month is a bit rude. Doesn't seem like he really cares how you feel about it.

If he's told you that "this is the way he is" once a month, then it sounds like he has no plans to change or to deal with it in a more mature manner. You can either accept it and keep away from him for that weekend a month, or move on. But he's not about to do anything about it.

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Registered: 09-26-2005
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 10:45am

By telling you that you can expect this kind of behavior from him once a month, he is also telling you that he has no plans to change and finds it acceptable to treat you any way he pleases and claim an insanity defense when it's all over.

I see a red flag here for emotional maturity. I also see a red flag in his lack of ability to communicate with you. To be angry and take it out on others is unacceptable and childish. This is the kind of behavior that adults commit rarely and become ashamed of immediately afterward.

I'd walk if I were you, because this seems to be an indication of how your future may turn out.

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 12:23pm
You can either accept him, as is, or move on.