Define rebound guy/gal

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Define rebound guy/gal
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Tue, 08-03-2004 - 4:06am
Why are they called a rebound? What is the purpose?
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Registered: 09-25-2003
Tue, 08-03-2004 - 4:42am
I don't think I've ever been a rebounder or a reboundee.

I think a lot of the time, people (who are coming out of a relationship) aren't aware that the person they become involved with is a rebound. They gravitate to a person because they need or are missing something that they haven't had for a while (example affection, attention, the feeling of being needed by someone etc).

More often than not, I would say it's a subconscious need to get back lost self esteem and confidence. The person they rebound with provides that and once it's fullfilled they realise they are able to move on and be happy and find someone (and love) again.

Unfortunately, most people don't understand that happiness comes from within themselves first. I think there'd be less rebound relationships if they did, because people would be growing and healing within themselves, rather than looking for someone else to 'fill the gaps'.

That's just my take on it. Why'd you ask?

Eve :-)