Delicate Situation -Please help!!

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Registered: 08-16-2004
Delicate Situation -Please help!!
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Mon, 08-16-2004 - 11:03pm
I am in distress, I'll try to simplify a very complicated situation:

I met this guy in college and we became good friends. As time passed I started to really like him. We would do everything together and he was the first guy who cared about me (I never had a boyfriend), so I think I started to fall in love w/ him. I asked him how he felt about me he was into me for a while, but I became his best friend so he did not act on those feelings.I was upset by that because my feelings for him only got stronger,but I still had hope that we could one day be more than friends.

Things got worse: since he trusts me somuch, i was the first person he confessed to that he is bisexual. He still in the closet to the world. He says that right now he is mostly interested in guys, but he still likes girls. He said that maybe after hes through with his guy phase he might go out with me.

I dont know what to do because I think I really am in love w/ him. He is always on my mind and I dont enjoy myself when we are apart. I dont know if to actually date him if he asks, I always get mixed feelings about him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-10-2003
Mon, 08-16-2004 - 11:33pm
Your guy considers you as a real friend. He trusted you with his secret. Understand that he is looking for a friend in you and not for a GF. He IS interested in guys now and he's looking to date them. He may like women BUT not at this time. You're emotionally invested already and having hope only will hurt your heart more. Why not take time for yourself to sort your feelings out and given this new information you can decide if you still want to get involved with this man. You may have to wait years before he notices women OR you may wait for ever if he doesn't see you as a potential GF.