Hi everyone!!! I hope you guys can help me out with my current dating situation. I am going to try and keep it short. I met an amazing guy four months ago, through my job. He recently transferred and is now working in another city, but we still continued to date. I met E six months after ending a seven year relationship with a committment phobic man 11 years my senior. So after being in that (7 year) relationship I am deathly frightened of being hurt again. Well back to me and E, E is 34 I am 29 years old. He is educated, outgoing, well spoken, sexy, passionate, funny and very, very romantic. What is wrong you ask? Well he recently ended his 3 year relationship with the mother of his child. He said they broke up because he knows that he doesn't want to be with her for the longterm. I have struggled with this idea, one feeling bad for her and two having feelings of being the OTW. He has told me on countless occasions that the relationship is completely over. We just started making love and I feel as though I have fallen in love with him, and out of fear of being hurt I ended the relationship and bailed!!! I couldn't handle it, I told him he that we can't date under these circumstances, that it was unfair to me.
I know that I can't compete with an ex-girlfriend, a 3 year relationship and an 18 month old child, and I have no children of my own. He has however told me (in an e-mail) that he doesn't want to lose me, wants to work on our relationship and allow it to grow, he asked me if I would be willing, and I haven't written him back yet, what to do?
I am still unsure if I can deal with all of this, what do I say? I don't want him to think that I am just going to be waiting around for him either. Am I right to want to protect my heart, or just unable to take a chance? I am also torn because I know I fell for this guy in 3 mos. way too fast and I can't allow myself to get hurt or be used by yet another guy who is on the rebound or is just bored for the meantime with his current relationship. I deserve better than that, it is just hard because men or so hard to find who are like E. I don't know what to do.Please help!!!