Did he change his mind?

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Registered: 10-23-2003
Did he change his mind?
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Mon, 01-01-2007 - 5:34pm

Hey all I need some advice and opinions please! Been talking to this guy online for a month....last several weeks we've been talking on msn messenger. Well he told me that he was intrested in me blah blah blah...so we made plans to meet up today...He lives an hour away from me...so I called him yesterday (because when we last talked online he was coming down to where I live to hang out with some friends of his, so I told him that I'd call him on new year eve...to decide what we wanted to do on monday and just to chit chat). Anyway..he annswered his phone...we only talked for maybe a couple of mins. he was with his buddie...so he asked if he could call me back later...I told him that would be fine. He did but I was out, he left a mess. and I returned his call we talked for almost an hour. He invited me to go see a movie yesterday with him and I told him I couldn't because I wasn't ready and I was leaving in a couple of hours to hang out with my friends for new years (he already knew this). He told me to call him tomorrow, we'd make plans to do something before he had to leave to go back home and before it got dark (or something next weekend because he was comming down next weekend, I told him I was cool either way). Well I called him this moring (around 11..phone rang and rang..left a mess.)..I hadn't heard from him..so I thought maybe he's forgotten or something...so I tried one more time at 10 mins. til 4 (it's going to be getting dark pretty soon)...his phone rang and then went to vm.

So did he change his mind? Have I called him too much and scared him? Im not going to call him again. what do I do from here

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Mon, 01-01-2007 - 5:50pm
"I'd wait till he calls you. It's possible that he chose to hang with his buds OR that he had other plans. Online relationships aren't reliable ones, considering that this was your first meet.
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Registered: 10-23-2003
Mon, 01-01-2007 - 6:02pm
Thanks for the reply....Im not goin to call him again....but I don't know..it's weird..I was looking forward to it and seeing if he a nice guy in person like he is online. Oh well moving on would probably be my best bet huh?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 01-01-2007 - 7:22pm

Yep, moving on is definitely your best bet. I had a similar thing happen this weekend--I've been talking to this guy online for a couple months because he lives in another city, but he was supposed to be moving back here by this weekend and he even asked me a week or two ago to keep some time free on the 30th to meet. I kept our emails to once a week so that I wouldn't get too attached, which I'm glad about, because it looks like he's pulled a disappearing act. I saw that he was online yesterday and I emailed him to ask (nicely) what had happened but I haven't heard anything back. I don't get it, he was supposedly so excited to meet, but there's nothing I can do if he's changed his mind for whatever reason, and the same is true for you.

It's really frustrating though!

Sheri

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Registered: 10-23-2003
Mon, 01-01-2007 - 8:53pm

well....girls good news...he sent a mess. I was naping...after last nites activities...he apologized and told me he felt really bad...he got called into work...and coudln't return my call and said after work..he'd been sleeping since he isn't feeling well..so he's coming back down next weekend...and we're going to go out then. He told me a few times he felt realy bad..I said stuff happens.

So just have to wait and see now:)

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Mon, 01-01-2007 - 9:29pm
Good, I'm glad he called back. IMO, he gets ONE second chance. If he stands you up or backs out again next weekend, he should be outta there. Good luck though, I hope he turns out to be a nice guy.

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