Did he not enjoy the sex?

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Registered: 12-08-2006
Did he not enjoy the sex?
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Sat, 06-23-2007 - 4:27pm

Did my boyfriend not enjoy the sex?
it was a quickie haha so not an ideal first time but he said he enjoyed it very much a couple of times but when i asked for details today he said he didnt want to talk about right then. he instead wanted to talk to me about how he wanted to get buff and quit smoking (please see my other posts if ur confused). how come he doesnt want to talk about it? this is the first man ive slept with that doesnt want to. did he not enjoy it? btw, we've only been bf/gf for 7 days but we dated for a longer period of time.
HIM: CAPRICORN (DECEMBER 30TH)
ME: AQUARIUS (FEB. 2ND)

FIRST TIME TOGETHER- neither of us were/are virgins

QUICKIE BECAUSE OF TIME. Just want to know what I couldve done better. all he said was he wished we had more time.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 06-23-2007 - 4:54pm

Do Aquarius women refuse to listen, understand and accept what a man says while over-analyzing everything to the death and destruction of a relationship?

He told you multiple times that he enjoyed himself. What more do your secret expectations demand he say?

You need to learn to step back and let things flow. Very few men are going to willingly dissect to death everything related to a budding relationship. You are going to kill this budding relationship very quickly if you keep this up. You own that responsibility and consequence.

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Sat, 06-23-2007 - 10:13pm
Maybe he is not comfortable talking about sex. Just because you both are all adults and were not virgins doens't mean that he is comfortable talking about the details of your sexual encounter. I would let sleeping dogs lie.
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Registered: 06-03-2007
Sun, 06-24-2007 - 9:59am
Whats with the astrology stuff...?
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-23-2007
Sun, 06-24-2007 - 2:15pm

Guys want to hear it was your best sexual experience ever. If you are questioning his enjoyment, he may think it may have not been enjoyable for you. Next time, praise his abilities (even if you have to stretch the truth). You'll raise his confidence, and maybe something else (lol). :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-08-2006
Sun, 06-24-2007 - 2:18pm
thanks! I did that yesterday and things are more than fine :)
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Registered: 05-02-2003
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:47pm
Well I am no "sexpert", nor an expert on how other men view sex (mainly because I have more emotional ties to sex like women tend to lean to more then men), but I will say that there is a mountain of possible circumstances that could be affecting his opinion of your "quickie". And not to say you don't matter, but only a fraction of the "possible circumstances" could have anything to do with you. I would suggest giving him a few more days and then ask him again what his feelings are about the quickie. If you still don't really get anywhere, then plan out an occassion to where you two can have the time to really enjoy each other because he may be more like I am in wanting a lot more of a connection then a quickie. Hope that helps. T
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Registered: 12-08-2006
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 4:16pm
Thanks! We talked about it and got it sorted out. I appreciate it :)