Did he or didn't he?

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Did he or didn't he?
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Wed, 06-16-2004 - 1:46pm


I posted a discussion about the friend I am going to talk about, he and I decided to stop hanging out because he had a girlfriend, and because he had feelings for me. I didn't want to complicate things any further so I told him about my feelings, that I didn't think it was respectful towards their relationship if we continued to hang out. By the way,I don't have any "more than friends" feelings for him.I have let him know that as well. I told him to keep me posted on the status of their relationship. Okay, less than a month later,last weekend actually, he breaks it off with his girlfriend. He was having a hard time breaking up with her for a year, then in less than month he does it? They were going through rough times, and he couldn't bring himself to break up with her. He always had an excuse, (for example: I will do it after her birthday, or after the concert etc.) I am a tad confused, I have a feeling he is still going out with her and he told me that they broke up, just to hang out with me again. Do you all think that in time I will find out the truth, or should I ask him if he really did break up with her. Some clues that have lead me to believe that he hasn't broken up with her, she still calls him, he hasn't told those closest to him, he doesn't really bring it up(in order to talk about his feelings), he doesn't seem depressed, he's going to visit her in order to drop off her stuff. I don't know I have a feeling he hasn't broken up with her. I don't know what to think. Any suggestions?

Any advice would be helpful.

Thanks

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Registered: 05-26-2004
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 1:52pm
Though you cant be responsible for another persons actions,I would question having a friendship with someone who was willing to put me in the middle of their relationship by deceiving.

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