Did he stand me uP?????

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Registered: 07-22-2003
Did he stand me uP?????
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Sun, 09-19-2004 - 10:45am
Ive been dating a guy for 8 weeks and in the beginning he was not great about calling...we went out every weekend though. Now he has gotten a lot better about calling. He even called me the other night to wish me luck for something. He called me friday and we chatted. He said he wanted to see me that night, but he had to pick his friend up at airport...but he'd call me...he called me at 1am and said his friends plane was late...didnt come in until midnight, and was supposed to be in at 1030. However...yesterday he had a wedding to go to and said he wanted to see me so bad, so he was going to leave early. I figured he wouldnt end up leaving, but I said ok. So he called me around 9 and told me all about the wedding and asked me if i wanted to come out and meet his friends and then come over, he wanted me to see his new dog. They were still at the reception when he called. So I said sure, and he said he'd call me when they were heading over and I could meet them there. Well by 1200 he still hadn't called, so I called him. On the second ring someone picked up but I just heard a lot of guys talking...like i had heard when he called me at the reception, so I hung up and called back and got his VM. Is this considered "standing Me up", should i be mad, should I call him todday? I really like him a lot, we have a ton in common, and he always tells me how he misses me and wants to see me. I mean, he did tell me at the beginning of the week how he had this wedding and a few of his friends were staying with him the weekend, from out of town...but...Im confused. When we go out, we have a great time...I know he's interested, but what is he doing.
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Registered: 03-03-2004
Sun, 09-19-2004 - 11:12am
I think he probably just got busy with other things and forgot. It's inconsiderate, and he may do a certain amount of telling you what you want to hear. However, I don't think it's something to rake him over the coals about. People make mistakes and it sounds like you guys are just dating right now. Even in committed relationships, people are sometimes neglectful and inconsiderate of each other. It goes with the territory. Hopefully, he'll give you a reasonable explanation. Hey, at least you didn't hear women's voices in the background. That's something to be happy about.
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Registered: 08-07-2004
Sun, 09-19-2004 - 8:49pm
Ummmmm...wait till he calls you--DONT call him. Then hear what he has to say and if he doesnt call--you have your answer.
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Registered: 09-19-2004
Tue, 09-21-2004 - 12:02am
He didn't stand you up. He was at a wedding. Those things can be pretty crazy. I agree with the first advice on here, not the advice from cinderella. Don't blow it out of proportion. He was obviously busy. And he probably got caught up in it all. At least he was considerate enough to call you. If you start to get bent out of shape over something like this, he is going to start wondering how you're going to react when there is really an issue. Keep it in perspective.

Good luck!!

Elle.