Did I blow it???
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| Fri, 01-27-2006 - 10:30am |
Welllllll... I just sort of started seeing someone who I think I like a lot. However, I am a little insecure because my last relationship crashed and burned and left me very lonely and very vulnerable.
This is the first guy since this past summer that I think I really like and I may have blown it! HELP!
Last night I was out and drunk dialed. Just to talk, that was it, but this morning I woke up and didn't relly remember the conversation - ahhhh! I know me and I'm sure I probably didn't say anything "so bad". But is this enough for him to "drop" me from consideration.
I wrote an email this morning to acknowledge I knew I was that tipsy. I know he is no saint when it comes to this, but I am so worried. We click and both have acknowledged to eachother we are siked to hang out again - did I blow it?????

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I don't know because you don't know what you did or said. Get feedback the next time he calls you.
Chalk it up to a lesson learned and go forward. No more drunk dialing for you.
good point. he is a party guy - to some extend I think. But he also seems to have a good head on his shoulders and is family oriented at the same time.
i probably blew it - he hasn't returned my email yet - BOOOOOOOOO!
good point. well, just to be safe and to ensure no "desparate" last please by dialing , i erased my entire call log on my cell, and his phone number. SOOOO, the only way I can now speak to him on my phone is for him to dial me...
i do still have his email, but im not as concerned about that.
Calm down.
1. No one is perfect. You mis-stepped a little and now know your lesson. If he's truly interested in you for you, this won't be a big deal. If he was on the fence anyway, it's probably a dealbreaker. Either way, you can't change what happened or how he feels about it. But if this is all it takes (assuming you didn't say anything that rings the stalker bell), you're better of knowing now.
2. Not everyone checks their e-mail several times a day. (Actually, on some of my accounts, I don't check for messages more than once per week.) Unless you sent the message with a read receipt and have gotten that receipt back, you don't know if he's read it. Even if you did get a read receipt, give the guy some to process or carve out some time to respond.
3. I honestly think you might be over-reacting a little too quickly. You've already deleted his contact information from your phone? Next time, simply take a deep breathe and try to handle the situation in a mature manner. Simply say you're sorry once -- preferably in person or via a phone call -- and let it be. Then, promise yourself you won't let it happen again.
Thanks. Yes, I may have over-reacted. He ended up calling me Friday night and arranging plans for Saturday night. We had a great time and my friend and her boyfriend joined us for a bit. Im just new to the dating thing and he is the first guy in a whil that I see potential with so I dont want to do anything wrong. However I do want things between us to be natural and right.
So that is where I am right now. I was hoping to have gotten a phone call yesterday or something, but its not the biggest deal I didn't. Hopefully we will arrange plans together again soon. He did seem to like me though so I guess I should calm down a bit.
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