Did I blow it???

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Registered: 12-03-2004
Did I blow it???
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Fri, 01-27-2006 - 10:30am

Welllllll... I just sort of started seeing someone who I think I like a lot. However, I am a little insecure because my last relationship crashed and burned and left me very lonely and very vulnerable.

This is the first guy since this past summer that I think I really like and I may have blown it! HELP!

Last night I was out and drunk dialed. Just to talk, that was it, but this morning I woke up and didn't relly remember the conversation - ahhhh! I know me and I'm sure I probably didn't say anything "so bad". But is this enough for him to "drop" me from consideration.

I wrote an email this morning to acknowledge I knew I was that tipsy. I know he is no saint when it comes to this, but I am so worried. We click and both have acknowledged to eachother we are siked to hang out again - did I blow it?????

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 10:32am

I don't know because you don't know what you did or said. Get feedback the next time he calls you.

Chalk it up to a lesson learned and go forward. No more drunk dialing for you.

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 10:55am
Does this guy party a lot too? If he does, maybe he'll find the drunk dialing charming. But do you really want to date a party animal? I haven't dated one of those type of guys since college. They tend to be a bit flighty.

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Registered: 12-03-2004
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 11:24am

good point. he is a party guy - to some extend I think. But he also seems to have a good head on his shoulders and is family oriented at the same time.

i probably blew it - he hasn't returned my email yet - BOOOOOOOOO!

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 12:27pm
Well, it's still early yet and some guys don't get to their e-mails right away. But have this be a lesson to you, no more drunk dialing. Sorry to be so harsh, but a lot of guys are turned off by this sort of thing. If he is a party guy and doesn't excuse your behaviour, he could be one of those "double standard" types.

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Registered: 12-03-2004
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 1:22pm

good point. well, just to be safe and to ensure no "desparate" last please by dialing , i erased my entire call log on my cell, and his phone number. SOOOO, the only way I can now speak to him on my phone is for him to dial me...

i do still have his email, but im not as concerned about that.

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Registered: 01-27-2006
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 5:59pm

Calm down.

1. No one is perfect. You mis-stepped a little and now know your lesson. If he's truly interested in you for you, this won't be a big deal. If he was on the fence anyway, it's probably a dealbreaker. Either way, you can't change what happened or how he feels about it. But if this is all it takes (assuming you didn't say anything that rings the stalker bell), you're better of knowing now.

2. Not everyone checks their e-mail several times a day. (Actually, on some of my accounts, I don't check for messages more than once per week.) Unless you sent the message with a read receipt and have gotten that receipt back, you don't know if he's read it. Even if you did get a read receipt, give the guy some to process or carve out some time to respond.

3. I honestly think you might be over-reacting a little too quickly. You've already deleted his contact information from your phone? Next time, simply take a deep breathe and try to handle the situation in a mature manner. Simply say you're sorry once -- preferably in person or via a phone call -- and let it be. Then, promise yourself you won't let it happen again.

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Registered: 12-03-2004
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 9:38am

Thanks. Yes, I may have over-reacted. He ended up calling me Friday night and arranging plans for Saturday night. We had a great time and my friend and her boyfriend joined us for a bit. Im just new to the dating thing and he is the first guy in a whil that I see potential with so I dont want to do anything wrong. However I do want things between us to be natural and right.

So that is where I am right now. I was hoping to have gotten a phone call yesterday or something, but its not the biggest deal I didn't. Hopefully we will arrange plans together again soon. He did seem to like me though so I guess I should calm down a bit.

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 3:16pm
Good! I'm glad things are working out. But please.... no more drunk dialing. ;)

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Registered: 12-03-2004
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 3:31pm
yeah, things may be working out. Its now Monday - should I be at all concerned that I haven't yet gotten a phone call from him after our date Sat night?
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Tue, 01-31-2006 - 2:02pm
Well, i decided to bite the bullet and i called him last night and left a msg saying i would be in his neck of the woods this week if he wanted to grab a dinner. He emailed me and said sure thing. Im so bad a reading between lines when it comes to dating. When is it ever the right time for anything? What does anything mean? I hate and love dating.

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