Did I do the right thing?
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| Mon, 04-19-2004 - 2:16pm |
Well last weekend he showed up at my house in the middle of the night wanting to talk and tried to kiss me and bad mouthed his girlfriend as well. I made him leave. I was so furious because here is trying to come back into my life and doing the same thing he did to me to his current girlfriend. I wished people would who knew about him cheating on me would have told me about it then so I could have ended it sooner.
Well I told his girlfriend in a nice email about him coming by and trying to do what he did. I was not trying to stir up trouble but rather let her know because I felt she had a right to know. I explained how he cheated on me too and how I wish I knew about it then. I told her I have a boyfriend who I love very much and how I do not want the ex coming back and trying to ruin things. Now the ex has called me and is threatening me. Now I wish I didn't tell her. I told my boyfriend all about it and he says I did the right thing.
Did I do the right thing?
Isabel

He has been trying to get back together with me and has made a point of expressing his longoing feelings for me as well. Even threw in a sob here and there. Because you and I are the strong people that we are, we would never get back together with our exes. I'm sure that the guy you are dating right now is doing something right because you are dating him. And the guy I am dating happened to be my best friend as well.
When I found out about my ex cheating on me -- I can easily say that that I would have really liked it if the sk@nk he cheated on me with would have said something to me...but on the other hand...it was probably better that I didn't have a way of tracing here lol I'm just kidding!
But all in all...you did the right thing. The new girlfriend is just an innocent bystander and there really isn't a need for more people to get hurt then there already has been. Just be careful with your ex. Not every threat is an empty on. Its good that you talked to your boyfriend about it. Now you have someone to back you up in case you need it.
The sad thing is, it probably won't make a difference. She probably won't leave him. Now she probably just thinks you are a jealous, meddling ex-girlfriend trying to make trouble, and he is mad at you and could be dangerous.
Stay away from him AND her. If he contacts you again, tell him to stop. If he continues to come around, call the police and let them know of his threats.
Same woman he had before we married. It seems abusive men have trouble letting go of anyone that has ever been involved with them.
Stay away and be careful.