Did I mess up?

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Did I mess up?
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Sat, 07-10-2004 - 8:12pm
About a month ago, I met a man at a social event. We wound up hanging out together most of the time and we had a great conversation and I really enjoyed hanging out with him and talking with him. We got together about 2 weeks later and took a 1 1/2 hour walk and he emailed me later that week. He said his work has been very busy and hectic and was working on Sat and was going hiking on Sunday. That Monday, I called him and asked him about the hike and he suggested we get together for the 4th. He recommended that we check the paper for ideas in the area. I emailed him on Wed. with the list from the paper and he emailed me back on Thurs. with his suggestion and saying we'll talk on Friday. Well, Friday he called and told me he didn't feel well and decided to stay at home for the weekend. I felt blown off, hurt and disappointed and although I didn't say anything, I'm sure it came out in the tone of my voice. He ended the conversation by saying But I'll call you. I called him on Monday and we chatted, he told me he was working this weekend and he ended by saying, I'll see you soon. I've had no contact with him and haven't heard from him since. I didn't think I did anything to spook him. He asked me out and suggested I get ideas from the paper. It was heartbreaking that on Friday, he blew off the 4th of July plans, when I Thurs. he sounded like he was picking out ideas. Any ideas or suggestions?
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Registered: 08-10-2003
Sat, 07-10-2004 - 9:52pm
I think he got cold feet because you "planned" the 4th for him and it appears that you wanted too much to get together. E-mailing a list of possible events or things you go/attend to was probably what did it. Next time wait til the man plans and e-mails you. You were assuming the guy's role here.
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Registered: 07-10-2004
Sat, 07-10-2004 - 11:13pm
Usually when a guy cools off, there's another woman he's hot for. Not always, but you can bet there was something or someone else he was more interested in. I'm sorry to be blunt, but it's better to not put all your eggs in his basket (so to speak) and move on.