Did I overreact?
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Did I overreact?
| Mon, 05-03-2004 - 11:10am |
OK, I need some insight here. I’ve been seeing G exclusively for about 4 months. Just to fill you in. He has a hard time saying “no”…it seems that his neighbors, his 24 year old son, etc. are always needing his help with something and he can’t just say “I have plans, maybe another day”. He knows he has that problem and also knows it cost him his marriage. This has sometimes been an issue for us also as everytime I’m at his house or out with him someone is calling wanting something or dropping by. It seems that we get very little uninterrupted time together.
Last week was a horrible week for me…on Monday, a dead baby was discovered in the wooded area right in my backyard (explain to a six year old son why your backyard is now a crimescene), on Tuesday I found out I have to lay off a staff member and on Thursday my best friend miscarried her baby at eight months. G was there through it all with me by phone..due to both our schedule we couldn’t see eachother during this time. He was of great support. We made plans to see eachother yesterday (Sunday) and I verbalized to him that I was wanting to go for dinner and maybe miniature golf or something. That I was feeling I needed some alone time with him to just unwind and do something fun as my week was so emotionally taxing. He said agreed to that.
So I get there Sunday afternoon looking forward to finally escaping and winding down a bit. He says to me “Daniel (24 year old son) called a few minutes ago and wants me to watch my 3 year old grandson for awhile so he can do some things around the house. His wife went shopping”. Hope you don’t mind”. I didn’t get to the grocery store this morning cause I was helping Rick install a door so we can take him to the grocery store and then out to eat and take him back home around 7:00p.m.” I was dumbfounded! When his grandson went into his toyroom I said “what gives? I thought we had plans for a date today?” and he said, “I know, I’m sorry but Daniel called and I really wanted to see Jayden..I haven’t seen him for a week.” G could tell I was upset and in the end decided we’d take Jayden to the grocery store, play at home with him and go to eat at 7:00 after we dropped him off. At dinner, he brought up that I was in a better mood now it seemed and I was probably a little put off by having his grandson with us. I told him it was nothing against his grandson but I felt like we had plans together and needed that time after the week I had. He admitted it was is fault and said “ I was just being greedy”. So I guess I’m wondering…did I overreact here? What would you all have done? Should I talk to him further about it or just let it go?
Last week was a horrible week for me…on Monday, a dead baby was discovered in the wooded area right in my backyard (explain to a six year old son why your backyard is now a crimescene), on Tuesday I found out I have to lay off a staff member and on Thursday my best friend miscarried her baby at eight months. G was there through it all with me by phone..due to both our schedule we couldn’t see eachother during this time. He was of great support. We made plans to see eachother yesterday (Sunday) and I verbalized to him that I was wanting to go for dinner and maybe miniature golf or something. That I was feeling I needed some alone time with him to just unwind and do something fun as my week was so emotionally taxing. He said agreed to that.
So I get there Sunday afternoon looking forward to finally escaping and winding down a bit. He says to me “Daniel (24 year old son) called a few minutes ago and wants me to watch my 3 year old grandson for awhile so he can do some things around the house. His wife went shopping”. Hope you don’t mind”. I didn’t get to the grocery store this morning cause I was helping Rick install a door so we can take him to the grocery store and then out to eat and take him back home around 7:00p.m.” I was dumbfounded! When his grandson went into his toyroom I said “what gives? I thought we had plans for a date today?” and he said, “I know, I’m sorry but Daniel called and I really wanted to see Jayden..I haven’t seen him for a week.” G could tell I was upset and in the end decided we’d take Jayden to the grocery store, play at home with him and go to eat at 7:00 after we dropped him off. At dinner, he brought up that I was in a better mood now it seemed and I was probably a little put off by having his grandson with us. I told him it was nothing against his grandson but I felt like we had plans together and needed that time after the week I had. He admitted it was is fault and said “ I was just being greedy”. So I guess I’m wondering…did I overreact here? What would you all have done? Should I talk to him further about it or just let it go?

No, I don't think you overreacted.
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