did i ruin everything? or am i in denial
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did i ruin everything? or am i in denial
| Sun, 01-29-2006 - 12:04am |
heyy ya'll. well me and my bf of about 2 months broke up over a month ago. i have not been able to get him off of my mind! i realize its been so long, but i still want him. we talk at times, and we hung out last night at a party (and i drove him home!) we broke up because i wasnt being myself (his brother, long story, made me feel insecure)...and i guess he became unattracted with me because i wasnt who he thought i was. but now im being myself, and im hoping that maybe we'll get back together. am i in denial over this guy? is it crazy to think that he will see the true me and still not want to be with me? i have all of these faint hopes...he said he didnt want to be a first boyfriend (because he was my first REAL relationship)...im thinking its just a line though. many mixed thoughts, any unput would be helpful! thanx!
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| Sun, 01-29-2006 - 12:10am |
Well, he fell for a girl that wasn't yourself. So he didn't fall for the real you. When he saw the real you, he apparently didn't like what he saw. So now he wants to be just friends. The next time you like a guy just be yourself. If he likes you for the real you, then he is worth your time. If not, then you need to look for a guy who likes you for you.
| Sun, 01-29-2006 - 12:16am |
i think i should have added that.....he did fall for the real me. we met at a party and hung out as friends (with the subconscious intention of being more) and i was totally myself. he is 2 years older and his brother is a friend of mine whos my age. and his brother was never nice to me...actually very mean, and i started changing during the relationship because of his brother. i was uninvited to family gatherings for example. maybe he didnt see me as being able to bring into the family and what he wants? but now me and his brother are good friends (always forgive, but never forget) so i have this crazy thought that he will notice and we can be together again.
| Sun, 01-29-2006 - 12:19am |
Did you pretend to be someone you're not? He probably was attracted to the person he thought you were, not the person you really are. If he's not attracted to the person you really are, you are most likely incompatible, which will save you trouble later. I have pretended to like certain things in past, just to attract a guy. But it never really works. When the guy and I broke up, I'd say to myself, "Thank God I don't have to watch another stupid nascar race!" It never works when you try to be compatible with someone who's not your type.

