Did I scare him off?
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Did I scare him off?
| Sat, 03-25-2006 - 10:43pm |
You ever have one of those soap opera moments where everything was great a minute ago, and then suddenly everything went really wrong, really fast?
I told my best friend that I love him.
We were just hanging out, eating lunch together as usual. And, as usual, we started a really bizarre conversation. In the midst of this, he started holding my hand. So I abruptly switched the conversation from 'video gaming psycho-analysis' to 'what do you think about love'. Which went not so well. He blushed, he refused to make eye contact, and he just dodged every question I threw at him. This lasted until after lunch, when we were walking together, and he asked me why I was asking HIM all these questions.
At that point, I somehow had a blonde moment even though I'm a brunette and there hasn't been a blonde in my family for 6 generations.
I kissed him and said 'I love you'... at which point he ran away from me. Far, far away.
And refused to call or email me back when I tried contacting him.
When I told my friends, they all essentially said duh, of course he freaked out, because he's 19 and I'm 37. Also, my friends, my parents, HIS parents (I called them to see if I could get through to him that way), and his friends all bluntly informed me that I'm 'too old' for him and that I 'move too fast'.
Ok, the 'move too fast' part is just weird, since nowadays one kiss usually doesn't mean too much.
And the 'too old for him' part... I don't know what to think anymore about that. Is age really such a big difference? Everyone seems to think so, but in all honesty I never gave it a lot of thought until now. Now that I AM thinking about it, though, my only thought is that I have wrecked the best friendship I have ever had in only 3 words and one kiss.
One word: HELP!
I told my best friend that I love him.
We were just hanging out, eating lunch together as usual. And, as usual, we started a really bizarre conversation. In the midst of this, he started holding my hand. So I abruptly switched the conversation from 'video gaming psycho-analysis' to 'what do you think about love'. Which went not so well. He blushed, he refused to make eye contact, and he just dodged every question I threw at him. This lasted until after lunch, when we were walking together, and he asked me why I was asking HIM all these questions.
At that point, I somehow had a blonde moment even though I'm a brunette and there hasn't been a blonde in my family for 6 generations.
I kissed him and said 'I love you'... at which point he ran away from me. Far, far away.
And refused to call or email me back when I tried contacting him.
When I told my friends, they all essentially said duh, of course he freaked out, because he's 19 and I'm 37. Also, my friends, my parents, HIS parents (I called them to see if I could get through to him that way), and his friends all bluntly informed me that I'm 'too old' for him and that I 'move too fast'.
Ok, the 'move too fast' part is just weird, since nowadays one kiss usually doesn't mean too much.
And the 'too old for him' part... I don't know what to think anymore about that. Is age really such a big difference? Everyone seems to think so, but in all honesty I never gave it a lot of thought until now. Now that I AM thinking about it, though, my only thought is that I have wrecked the best friendship I have ever had in only 3 words and one kiss.
One word: HELP!

discomilla...
PG is gonna play devil's advocate with you.
Reverse your ages and pretend you were the 19 year old and he was a 37 year old male? Wouldn't it surprise you if the conversation suddenly switched from video games to LOVE, and the 37-year old male suddenly started uttering "terms of endearment" finishing his routine by laying 'a big smooch' on your lips???
Wouldn't that FREAK YOU OUT......at least a little bit???
Now you know why the communication between you (and the younger man) has become NULL & VOID! How many 19-year olds are actually prepared to get "hit on" by a woman who is 18-years their senior?
Pianoguy
Wow reading that I would have thought you were the 19 yr old anyhow....yeah a 37 year old and a 19 year old would make me pause and wonder why.
Stop calling him he'll call you when he's ready to talk.
I'm sorry to say that I just think the age difference is too great. We're talking 2 decades here. I'm 32 and I've met some cool 19 year olds, but I honestly have not met one that measured up to me mentally or emotionally. I guess I'm struggling with what you're getting out of the relationship with him. And don't get me wrong, I'm not flaming you or judging you. I'm just lost. Is it possible the love you feel for him is more like a maternal love of wanting to take care of him?
I think there may be some things for you to thnk about here as to why you're going for someone who truly isn't equal, no matter how extraordinary a 19 year old he is.
Kerry
OH MY...
If you really like him wait till he is 21 to make a move. That way people won't have that much of a problem with it.
Tell the guy you were only joking and were teasing. He might come around.
I think.....
Try not to get upset with me. I was asking a question based on what you wrote. If that's not the case, then so be it. It was just my initial thought, hence the question.
Kerry