Did I scare him and what do I do now?

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Registered: 11-16-2012
Did I scare him and what do I do now?
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Wed, 09-25-2013 - 3:25pm
We haven't been goin out long. I saw him last Monday and things went well. I went out of town for a conference and he would text me all this lovey stuff and called me all the time. A lot of it very emotional from the heart stuff. He and I talked about being exlusive and not seeing other people. I saw him again this past Sunday and it was the first time we had relations. I know it was really quick to be doing that but it happened and I can't go back and change that. The next morning I woke up and wasn't feeling well. He had to do something for a family member and ended up leaving more quickly then expected. I was just so overhelmed that he saw me cry. He texted me when he got home and called me a couple times durning the day to check on me. Yesterday he wasn't feeling well so I didn't call or text him much because I didn't want to bother him while resting. I saw him last night and everything seemed ok. We watched a little tv together, did some making out and such and talked. I just point blank asked him if he felt different about me now and he said no. And I also asked if I was over thinking things and he said yes. I called him when I got home like he asked me to and sent him a text this morning. He still calls me beautiful and all that but the texts are not as frequent as they were last week. Are we just settling in to every day things where we only talk once or twice and it's not as lovey or did I show too much emotion and it scared him? What do I do to get it back to what it was? Did he just get what he wanted and is now pulling away? I won't see him again till Saturday or at least that's the plan. We are both in our 30's. Thanks in advance for the help.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 09-25-2013 - 7:50pm

What would make you ask if he felt different about you?  From your description he didn't give any indication that he felt different in any way?  What were you crying about?  I mean crying might be embarrassing but it's not the end of the world--you could brush it off by saying that you didn't feel well, instead you made a bigger deal about things.  Maybe the guy is now thinking that you are high maintenance.  I don't know why he would make a big deal & talk about being exclusive if he was planning to dump you after having sex.  I think you just need to relax and act like everything is normal and just wait til you see him Sat.

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Registered: 12-03-2006
Thu, 09-26-2013 - 1:33am

too much too soon. But I don't think you did anything wrong. maybe just lay back a bit and let things go naturally. The right guy will stick around.