Didn't Even Get To Tell Him! He Told Me!
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| Sat, 08-25-2007 - 11:31am |
Crap! So in case anyone read or wrote back to the "Should I Tell Him?" blog...I was intending on telling my bf about still having to be around my ex on my pool team. I was going to do it before the chance he saw my ex again. But that wasn't able to happen. Somehow he sensed it the night they saw each other. My bf brought up last nite out of nowhere, asking if he's ever met one of my ex's. I said "not yet...he's on my pool team but he was playing when you were there so you weren't introduced yet." SO...he gave this "i knew it!" speech and explained how he felt that my ex kept staring and grilling him or something. blah blah blah....men! ALSO! The topping on the arguement that follwed....that night he said he felt i was pulling away from him when he kissed me...which i wasn't! And that made me sooo angry! So I knew he was going to say that this feeling he had was do to my ex! But he put this all in his head...because I wasn't pulling away! And I don't care whos around me to kiss him! ugh!
So that was a big mess....because of these notions he put in his head...if anything...that i nite i felt that he didn't even wanna be there, cuz he was out with his friends earlier and they all came by to see me after and he looked like he was tired and wanted to leave! Well...at least it's over know...i just wish that he would understand that i don't and didnt care about my ex that nite...and would realize that i wasn't pulling away from him...but i guess that's just something he'll have to get over. Anyway...just updating you on this minor disaster! Thanks again for your input if you gave any!

Well reassure him of your feelings and that your only hesitation in telling him was not because you had feelings for your ex but because you didn't want to unnecessarily hurt your b/f- who is the sole object of your carnal desire.
Try to use this as a vehicle to learn to communcate better for both of you and how to resolve disagreements. Good luck
Wow...he's good at reading human behavior, isnt he?
There may have been some hesitation on your part when he kissed you...maybe so slight that you didn't even notice, but he did. Maybe it was just an awkward moment..with him kissing you in front of your friends. For some people that is kind of a shy moment. Maybe it had nothing to do with the ex - more the friends, but he didnt' see it that way.
Okay, he got upset, but he actually say it was "over" because you didnt introduce them that night?
You might want to find out what your ex said to your BF. Just in case he has bit of the "old territoryitis" and gives other BFs a hard time.