Differences in opinion

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2007
Differences in opinion
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Wed, 02-14-2007 - 4:42pm

I have been dating this guy for 2 1/2 months. We're both divorced (I'm a single mom of two teenagers - 41 y/o; he lives alone - 50 y/o). We live less than 40 miles from each other. He has been unemployed and has had plenty of free time (money isn't an issue either), however he doesn't think it is important to spend time together. I think that if we can't find time for each other now, I'll NEVER see him once he starts his new job. He makes 40 miles seem like it is a huge distance, when I travel almost that far every to & from work. He tells me how wonderful I am, how he has never met anyone like me in his life, how he wishes he could have met me 20 years ago and prevented bad relationships for both of us . . .

Today is Valentine's Day. I am at home because of a snow day for my kids' school. He had a job interview today, but chose to go back home. I don't expect much (no roses, jewelry, candy) but would really have loved to have him come to spend the evening with me. Instead, he is at home alone and . . . I am home alone.

This has been a pattern with this guy and I have been disappointed before. How do I make him understand that I'm not asking for much . . . just getting to spend time with him?

Or, is this hopeless?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2005
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 7:55pm
I can completely understand where you are coming from and it is very frustrating. I have been dating this guy since November. However, like you, this guy can never seem to find the time to call or go out much. We've only gone out 5 times since Nov and there will be huge gaps between the times we go out. What is worse is this guy only lives 10 miles or so away from me. I too haven't heard anything from him today. Personally, I would suggest that you keep looking for another guy. I feel like if I a guy truly likes you then he will make time to see/call you. He won't mind driving out of his way to see. Moving on- however, is the toughest part. You always think well maybe it will get better. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.