Different "should I call him?" situation
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Different "should I call him?" situation
| Wed, 08-04-2004 - 3:18pm |
OK, I read the other "should I call him" discussion and it was a very different one than mine so I thought I would ask for some opinions. I met a guy through and online service and he seemed GREAT! We exchanged emails back and forth almost every day and then exchanged phone numbers late the week before last. We talked on the phone last Monday for over an hour - we just kept talking and talking about stuff. At the end of the convo, he seemed very interested in talking to me again. He said something about talking later in the week but I reminded him I was going out of town. At that point he said, "well we can still chat by email, right? And then we can talk when you get back." After that, I was optimistic that things were going well and that we'd talk again. I sent him an email the next day and mentioned that I had enjoyed talking to him and just had another one of our "conversational emails" like we'd been having for a few weeks. I have heard nothing from him since. I sent a really brief email last Friday to just say hi but nothing.
Will I look like a desperate, needy, clingy idiot if I call him? I really like what I know of this guy so far and just want to explore things and maybe get to know him better. I'm not asking to get married, for a commitment or even a date! I'd just like to talk to him. What should I do? I am really confused and a little upset and just don't know what to do. Any opinions - please??

I wouldn't contact him again...you've already sent him two unreturned emails. He knows you're interested and he knows how to get in touch with you.
For future reference, I would recommend keeping emails and phone calls to a minimum prior to arranging a brief meeting for coffee. Most of us who are experienced in online dating have found that exchanging a handful of emails and talking on the phone once briefly works to weed out those we're not interested in meeting. You need to meet in person to see if there's really any chemistry.
Sheri
I also understand what you are saying about the communication and all, but I think I just somehow have to go with one more phone call, suggest meeting in person to see if there is chemistry before giving up. There has been enormous chemistry and common interests so far (we have near parallel lives while still having both common and different yet complementary interests). But if I get nothing from that, that's it.
Edited 8/4/2004 6:13 pm ET ET by vexer_hw
The weeding out comment was for you, not him. There's no need to spend hours on the phone. If after a couple of emails and a short phone call, he seems like someone you'd want to meet, then meet for coffee and take it to real life ASAP.
Sheri
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