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Dilema
| Wed, 12-01-2004 - 12:21pm |
Ive been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years....Im 33 and hes 37.......he has a 9 year old from a previous marriage......Maybe its just me.......But Im so worried.....that Im getting to old and want to get married and start my family......I know that sounds so lame......he says he does want to marry me and wants more kids but not right now....and I just feel my clock is ticking......I want to start my family before its to late....or I dont want to try for years on trying to get pregnant ( im having medical problems) I would never tell him this.....because....I know it sounds silly......Please help......I get so upset and depressed.....cause I want kids so bad...his child loves me to death....but he is so afraid of how the child will react

birchbeer6...
Pianoguy LOVES your name. It has been a very long time since he enjoyed a glass of REAL BIRCH BEER!
If the issues of when and how soon are bothering you...then you're probably going to have to let the man know about your "biological clock" and how much children mean to you. Suffering in silence is going to make you miserable and could actually trigger an argument (and I'm sure you don't want that)!
While I'm sure that his 9-year old child is precocious as most 9-year olds are...the 2 of you CAN'T live your lives based on her needs and responses. You didn't indicate the sex of the 9-year old, but assuming she's a girl...you might be amazed by how quickly (and positively) she'd respond to having a brother or sister?
My gut is telling me that your b/f is using "his child" as an excuse to keep your relationship "on hold!" So perhaps this is a good opportunity to find out...once and for all...if there's a future ahead for the both of you?
Pianoguy
birchbeer 6:
Simple answer: YOU CAN'T!
Pianoguy
Edited 12/1/2004 2:55 pm ET ET by boobeetrap