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| Fri, 09-17-2004 - 6:53pm |
There is a group of guys that I have been friends with for about eight months and towards the end of May I started sort of dating one of them and having sex with him. He was hanging out with them last night and he wanted to see me and I am sure they probably knew why he was coming to see me and I don't think they knew about us before, but now they most likely do. I am not ashamed to be doing that with him, it's just that I don't want them to think less of me. I also have a crush on a couple of them. Would guys date someone that they know their friend has been with. I also like the guys I am sort of seeing. Should I stop the thing with the guy and just be friends with them all and if a relationship came out of the friendship that would be great.
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| Tue, 09-21-2004 - 4:09pm |
I would think most guys do not cross the line of having sex with someone his friend has been with. Most importantly if a guy would wants to cross that line, you shouldn't want to be with someone who would betray a friend. When you say the other guys you are seeing? Are you saying that you are dating more than one guy and possibly sleeping with all of them? If you are dating more than one person you should be honest with the people involved so they'll know where you stand with them. If you are having multiple partners, I want you to first of all be safe, us a condom the whole time and birth control. Secondly, really think about why you are doing this and what you are getting out of it. I'm not here to judge; it is more important how you feel if you do feel guilty than you should explore those feelings. If you don't, don't let other people make you feel guilty. Even if you are not having sex with multiple partners, if you have deep interest or are dating more than one guy that's not fair to them or yourself. You are keeping yourself from concentrating on growing a relationship with one special person. Think about what you need, what is missing that you're trying to fill with concentrating on a number of guys, and more importantly is that need really being filled?
