Dilemma

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Registered: 05-31-2004
Dilemma
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Tue, 06-29-2004 - 4:19am
I met this incredible guy about a month ago whom I have this instant click and connection with. But the only thing that I am not too sure if this is love or lust. He is a foreigner and will be going back to his own country next month. Despite the fact that I do like him very much, I know I am heading for trouble if I fall hard for him. How does he feel about me? Well, according to a pal, he has been asking details about me and commented that he would like to start off as a friend first and see what happens.

He's not in town since last week and I miss him already. The only thing is, he has not called or even send any emails to me so far. What should I do? What should I say? Or rather, how should I feel?

I'm trying my hardest to control my feelings for him and also to think twice before I should say anything to him. But I have confessed to him that I am fond of him. But he replied that he rather start off as friends first rather than to dive into a relationship with someone and end up losing the person and a friend (so he claims).

Maybe, he's not interested but do not dare to say it out just in case if it'll hurt me. And maybe for him to tell me to start off as friends is an indirect way of telling me that he's not interested? I dont know...

But that instant click with him is something that I have only experienced it thrice. The other times were with either female friends and my ex. And I feel happy and relaxed when I am with him. What should be my next step?

I want to take things slow but missing him is driving me crazy...

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Registered: 12-23-2003
In reply to: sherlenesiew
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 11:46am

You need to pay attention to the fact that your friend has said... more than once... that he doesn't want to get into anything serious with you.

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Registered: 05-31-2004
In reply to: sherlenesiew
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 2:49am


I completely understand what you're saying. I already know it too well but yet, I supposed, I'm gonna miss this man very very much when he leaves.

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Registered: 05-26-2004
In reply to: sherlenesiew
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 10:02am
If he is interested in pursing "more" with you, he will.
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Registered: 12-23-2003
In reply to: sherlenesiew
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 10:16am

I know you'll miss him, hon.

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Registered: 05-31-2004
In reply to: sherlenesiew
Fri, 07-02-2004 - 1:56am
Yeah well...I should know better.

In any ways, I should just enjoy what I have now. And that is friendship. After all, true friends are hard to come by right?

Oh well...thats how life is!

Cheers! And thanks for the advice!