Dilemma
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| Thu, 03-04-2004 - 11:39pm |
I have a dilemma that I hope you can help me with. I have been going to a gym for the last month. I think I have a crush on one of the trainers there! We've been exchanging smiles for a month. Once he came up to me and asked how I was doing. He said he hadn't seen me around for a few days. Yesterday, I found the courage to talk to him and introduce myself. I told him I was new to the gym experience, (which is true)and I asked if I could come to him for pointers. He readily agreed. We made a little small talk after that. When I saw him today, he seemed to be in a hurry. He briefly touched my arm and said hello.
I don't know if I should ask him out or not. And if I do, how should I do that without making him feel that I am throwing myself at him. I've in my late twenties, and I have never asked a man out. Also, if I ask him out and he refuses, how do I save my face?
Thank you.

Also, Deena33, you bring about a good point about personal trainers having to be flirtatious. However, the other trainers at the club don't behave like that. This guy waves to me across the room every single time I'm there.
Oh well... it doesn't matter anymore! :-(
But thank you all, anyway.
It's true that as a trainer it's his job to be friendly, if not flirtatious. At the club where I work out, the people at the reception desk are mostly beautiful young women who are obviously trained to flirt with the mostly male clientele, especially well to do middle aged men.
Here's another thing, though: a male trainer may be trained not to hit on the female clientele. He might be very reluctant to pursue you even if he is interested. So I'd continue to let him know you're interested. If he is interested in you, eventually he'll figure out how to let you know.