Dilemma: Potential date and GF

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Registered: 08-24-2005
Dilemma: Potential date and GF
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Tue, 05-30-2006 - 6:48pm

Hi, I really would like some advise here. Never faced such a situation before.
A guy responded to me from the personals and he is in my city. We have talked on the phone a few times but never met yet. He has been wanting to meet me and has shown his interest. So far, I don't feel excited about him, from what I have known of him or felt with him.

Ok now the situation is this. I have a new single girlfriend, who showed considerable interest in him from the first time I mentioned him. I used to get a bit irritated thinking she is meaning to snatch my potential date away from me, but I think she realized her mistake and stopped asking bout him too much. Now that I think about it, I feel, she and him will make a better pair than me and him. It's just a strong feeling.

How should I proceed from here? He wants to meet me sometime after my upcomign exams.
Should I even go on a date with this guy even though I am not feelin it so far with him (on phone). If I do go on a date, and do not like him and wanna move on.....how should I introduce my girl pal to him? What exactly can I tell him (will he feel insulted that I am passing him on to a GF of mine or will be think it's nice of me to suggest that?) And what exactly can I tell HER? (need exact words...if possible). I am at a loss how to handle this situation.

If I wanna remain friends with him, should I set up a get-together with all three of us? So he can meet her in a non-pressured environment and so they both get to talk to each other? There's a strong voice inside me that says they both are WAY more suited to each other. Their ages are similar....so is their religious background...and so is their personality. Hmm.....

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Registered: 11-04-2005
Tue, 05-30-2006 - 8:01pm

First make sure it's okay with your friend to set her up and then why not tell the guy something like "I've enjoyed communicating with you but I just don't feel a romantic spark. However, from getting to know you I'm pretty sure you'd hit it off with a single friend of mine. Would you be interested in meeting her?"

He may or may not go for it, but it's worth a shot.