dirty dancing ?

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Registered: 06-11-2006
dirty dancing ?
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Mon, 06-19-2006 - 5:16pm

posted this elsewhere but still looking for responses...

I have a BF of 3 years who hates to dance, but I truly enjoy myself when I go out and dance at a club. He has not expressed any concern when I've gone to clubs with mutual guy-friends and danced with them, though the overall goal was to net them a girl. What I'm wondering is, how appropriate is it for me to go to clubs and dance with guys I don't know?

I'm very sensitive to issues of "cheating," and I'm entirely uncertain as to whether this qualifies. I hate being groped, so I always choose guys that respect my personal space and don't touch me inappropriately, but of course club dancing is always somewhat sexually suggestive and I am dancing up against a guy. What are the rules when a taken woman takes to the dance floor without her man? Should I get my groove on totally independently, or am I within my relationship rights to dance with anyone I please, as long as it's in good taste? (mini question: can club dancing ever be in good taste?)

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Registered: 09-25-2003
In reply to: mcrgrl
Mon, 06-19-2006 - 7:18pm
Rule of thumb, which doesn't just apply to dancing....if you wouldn't do it with your partner watching, you probably shouldn't do it.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: mcrgrl
Mon, 06-19-2006 - 10:33pm

Ugh, I feel old ;-), not knowing the answer to this question: can't you just *dance* with the guy like normal, a foot or two apart from each other and not touching???? Why does club dancing *have* to be suggestive?

If you can't do the not touching thing for some reason, then I don't think it's appropriate for a person in a relationship to do.

Sheri

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Registered: 06-11-2006
In reply to: mcrgrl
Tue, 06-20-2006 - 5:38pm
great advice--I'll take it