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disappearing man
| Wed, 08-04-2004 - 12:30pm |
I am need of some kind of realistic support and advice. I met a man recently, and we hit it off right away. Everything was going great for a couple of weeks...He called me nearly everyday...We made plans to do things...We kissed all the time. He never pressured me to jump into bed, even though we have this amazing chemistry. Even my friends noticed. I should also mention that I am 31 years old. He is 29. We are not kids, and we are both fully employed, and drug free. Anyway, things were moving very smoothly. Not too fast...Not too slow. Then, suddenly he stops calling me. Several days go by, and I decide to call him. I left a VM, and he called me back right away. We talked a bit, but he didn't seem to want to make any plans to see me. I did ask him what he was up to over the weekend, and invited him down to the beach. The funny thing is he said he would call me back, but never did. A full week (7days) wend by, and I decided to send him a simple email. "how are you?" was all I wrote. He wrote back right away, and apologized for disappearing..he had a lot going on, blah blah blah...Then also says he'll call me later today, and we'll talk. That was yesterday. He hasn't called. I know I'm obsessing over this, but I don't understand why he says he will call, and then doesn't. I haven't seen him in over 2 weeks now. I want to just forget about him, but my overly optimistic friends are telling me to not give up hope. I just feel like a fool. What is it with guys who say they'll call, and don't?? I know this happens a lot. I really like this guy, but I don't want to pressure him for anything right now. Any advice would be appreciated.

If I were you, I'd back off. No emails, no calls, no messages. NOTHING.
Men are strange at times. Just let it be. You've done all you could. By backing off some, he may come around and wonder what happened to you.
Don't bother him again. Let him be. He sounds unsure of what he wants right now and I'm sure it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him.
He probably wants someone, not sure he wants someone. Maybe there are some things going on in his personal life that he needs to straighten out.
Like I said, I'm sure it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him.
You are obviously a nice person by being concerned about this guy, but like I told another individual if a guy is giving you his attention he is locked on to you.
If he is not giving you attention be worried.
I am not saying this is 100% fact, but from a guy's perspective it is. He knows how you feel the problem with men is we don't realize we hurt you by saying we will call and then don't. Men take things at face value and don't read into things. Women make the mistake in try to analyze each move a man makes.
Thus men cause women pain and honestly don't mean it.
I sure hope he calls you he should you know some men don't know what they have until its gone.
If you have any other questions please let me know, I do understand.
Andrew
Hon, sounds like this guy has moved on from you.
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