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do all men disappear?
| Wed, 08-09-2006 - 2:16pm |
Few facts: Since January of this year, I've had 4 men fall of the face of the earth. Chemistry is impossible to fake. I'm 36 have dated a lot, and have had several serious relationships (1 yr to 3 yrs) and know when a man is not interested. I'm getting extremely tired of going on 'great' dates, having a blast, laughing and talking with each other continuously, then I hear nothing from them.
I'm a college grad, professional, independent (but not so much that I don't need or want a man), am frequently told how "attractive" I am, articulate, love to laugh, eat more than tiny salads on dates, don't monopolize the conversation, ask 'him' plenty of questions, I'm very fit, not overweight, on the conservative side of dressing, am not overly flirtatious but I know to let a man know when I'm interested. I have "a life" and give men plenty of opportunity to chase me, but I know NOT to make them chase too hard or they become discouraged. I'm sort of old-fashioned and believe he should make dates #1 and #2 and if there's a #3, I'll usually cook dinner for him, and I certainly don't sleep with men on the first date (or 2nd or 3rd, but maybe 4th ha!) I'm outgoing, assertive (not aggressive) don't have any 'daddy issues,' have a tight-knit group of girlfriends and plenty going on. I'm not clingy and believe the tighter you hold onto someone, the faster and farther away he'll want to be, and I don't go on dates male-bashing or talking about past relationships. I'm confident (not arrogant), am generally upbeat, optimistic and enthusiastic. On a date I'm attentive, mind my manners, always express my gratitude for him taking me out, bathe, shave my legs, don't drown myself in perfume, dress appropriately (not like nun and not like a hooker)........my friends are as baffled as I am. I'm going out with guys about the same age, seemingly confident, professionals, similar backgrounds, etc.....not aiming too high out of my league. Any perspectives are welcome.
I'm a college grad, professional, independent (but not so much that I don't need or want a man), am frequently told how "attractive" I am, articulate, love to laugh, eat more than tiny salads on dates, don't monopolize the conversation, ask 'him' plenty of questions, I'm very fit, not overweight, on the conservative side of dressing, am not overly flirtatious but I know to let a man know when I'm interested. I have "a life" and give men plenty of opportunity to chase me, but I know NOT to make them chase too hard or they become discouraged. I'm sort of old-fashioned and believe he should make dates #1 and #2 and if there's a #3, I'll usually cook dinner for him, and I certainly don't sleep with men on the first date (or 2nd or 3rd, but maybe 4th ha!) I'm outgoing, assertive (not aggressive) don't have any 'daddy issues,' have a tight-knit group of girlfriends and plenty going on. I'm not clingy and believe the tighter you hold onto someone, the faster and farther away he'll want to be, and I don't go on dates male-bashing or talking about past relationships. I'm confident (not arrogant), am generally upbeat, optimistic and enthusiastic. On a date I'm attentive, mind my manners, always express my gratitude for him taking me out, bathe, shave my legs, don't drown myself in perfume, dress appropriately (not like nun and not like a hooker)........my friends are as baffled as I am. I'm going out with guys about the same age, seemingly confident, professionals, similar backgrounds, etc.....not aiming too high out of my league. Any perspectives are welcome.

You're just a very polished, self-confident, amazing woman and few men will be able to keep up with that.