Do girls like boys?

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Registered: 07-22-2006
Do girls like boys?
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Sat, 07-22-2006 - 2:23pm

Does this question sound preposterous? If there was a memo about girls liking boys that went out I missed it growing up. I am a confused 20 something man. I may have not been raised properly. I've dated, had girlfriends, but I still don't even know why they liked me?? What do women like about men? I don't approach women in bars because I still don't understand. What do you like about men? This is a genuine question. Please if there are any serious answers I would like to hear. Basic is good. Believe me my understanding is very low. I am 25, but I really have no clue. Do women like men's size or attitude? Are men attractive to women? What is attractive about a man? If you feel this is a good opportunity to knock me down your right. Please don't. I really have no where else to ask this question. It's kind of embarrassing. I suppose I could ask my roommates girlfriend. The question struck me last night when I was at the bar. I've never known. I think men come in two types. Men who know and men who don't. It might have something to do with being raised by a single mother. I've really never had an example. I think it also sobotages my relationships because I can't really understand why this girl is with me. How can this girl like me with the same kind of passion that I like her? Are any kind women out there willing to help?

Nick

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 07-23-2006 - 7:15pm

Maturity and having a silly sense of humor have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with each other!!!

Seriously...I'm having trouble understanding why you think being emotionally mature means you can't have fun and be silly???

Sheri

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Registered: 07-22-2006
Sun, 07-23-2006 - 8:41pm
Ok well thanks for all the advice. I'll think about the things you said. Maybe girls do like boys. I'm still not quite sure why since it sounds like you look for the same qualities in men as you would look for in a friend. I have one last question. In your opinion how are men different from women? I'm talking about personality and attitude here.
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sun, 07-23-2006 - 8:56pm

I wouldn't want to sleep with my friend, that's what the difference is.


And regarding your being silly and being mature... Sheri is right. I'm 33, believe myself to be emotionally mature and yet am as silly as they come. One has nothing to do with the other...


I want you to do me a favor and you don't have to share it here... But I want you to list 25 positive attributes about yourself. Confidence comes from knowing yourself, not putting on an act. Remember that... And then I want you to take those 25 items and paste them in at least 3 places where you are in your home every day--bathroom, bedroom mirror... and read them every single day. Ok?


Kerry

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Registered: 07-22-2006
Sun, 07-23-2006 - 10:32pm
You know that sounds ridiculous and if anyone ever sees the list they'll think I'm a moron. But I'll do it. I don't think I can come up with 25. I'm good at parallel parking. What kinds of things are you good at?
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sun, 07-23-2006 - 10:40pm

No, no... I want you to write things about yourself such as you're cute, handsome, smart, quick-witted, youthful, fun, etc.


It may seem dumb but sometimes we all need a reminder... ;o)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-24-2006 - 1:43am

Well, yes, I do look for the same qualities in a romantic partner that I look for in friends--such as integrity, honesty, a sense of humor and playfulness, common interests, stuff like that. I have friends of both genders, by the way. The difference with someone I would consider as a romantic partner is sexual attraction.

I don't really like to stereotype people by gender so I can't really say how "men" as a gender are different from women in terms of personality and attitude. It's really such an individual thing.

Sheri

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