Do Guys like to wait to ask girls out or

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Registered: 11-08-2004
Do Guys like to wait to ask girls out or
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Tue, 12-07-2004 - 1:23pm

What -

I have been talking to this guy for a month now and he still hasn't ask me to do anything with him. Its like hes waiting for me. I suggest football on sunday and he was like after I told him he said I should of told him early. I don't know if he just wants a friend or what? I have been trying to figure it out but if I do run into him he dose kiss me and act very interseted . He dose call me...??? Help

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Tue, 12-07-2004 - 2:25pm

he's not that interested... either that or he gets off on the attention from you waiting for him to do something.

leave him behind and continue with your life without him.

if he wanted to ask you out, he would have. of course he kisses you and acts interested when he "runs into you"... there's no effort on his part to do anything.

do not chase men!

why be interested in a man who can't ask a girl out?

get busy living your life.

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Registered: 01-24-2004
Tue, 12-07-2004 - 4:27pm

Hey,

Here's the deal. There's two ways to look at this:

1. He's not that into you because if he were...you woulda asked you out already. BOYS know how to use the phone.

2. He could be nervous. Could you ever ask a boy out? Wouldn't you be nervous?

3. If you can't get over the fact that he hasn't asked you out yet, just ask him for coffee. Flirt...a lot. If it was a good meeting, and he asks you out again, then you know the answer.

I was in the same situation. This guy asked for my number, put his arms around me, flirted...but he never called me. I wasn't sure, so I decided that it wouldn't hurt to ask him to coffee. We had lunch...didn't turn out so great. At least I know my answer. Do you know yours?

Good Luck,
Nina




Edited 12/7/2004 4:29 pm ET ET by angelanin
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Registered: 11-10-2004
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 4:38am
Cheers to thebeach2004,
Bellina sends greetings!
Men,they can be mysterious and complex to figure there intentions! He may be either be
attached but not committed(playing the field),afraid of a new relationship/mending from a previous relationship,not ready,or shy? If he's slow in asking you out,but still chats regularly,there's seems to be some interest.You can ask him to coffee,lunch,casual atmostphere less formal.If he's willing and accepts the invite you'll get better read
on his motives and if it's worth pursuing.In conversations,finding if you connect intellectually,share interests,and have mutual attractions may determine where things can go,or not.If he's too hesitant to meet,then there's someone of something in his life presently.Only time can determine this and how you both feel.Best wishes Bellina
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Registered: 11-08-2004
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 8:47am

Bellina,

Thanks so much

Honestly your answer seems to be more accurate. He dose have an ex girlfriend from over 4 years ago but she cheated on him and got remarried and now she is in the process of a divorce. He has made it very clear that he wants nothing to do with her. I know this story from a mutual friend. So, maybe he is still in the healing process because from my understanding he has not dated anyone since her. I just have been playing it really cool and not pressuring him to do anything I mean he dose call me and he dose email me and he has talked about we'll we will have to do this together. I don't know its just so annoying some times because you know how women are....they want everything to happen right away and they don't like to wait......

Thanks